should i be checking on him?

Question

we have been dating for 6 months and a girl who is very jelous of me (she has confessed) is all over him whenever she is around him... even if i am there! I have caught her texting him but never found out what the messages are. should i check his phone or just let it slide... this girl also has a previous history of trying to steal my boyfriends

Answer 1

Do you trust him? If not find someone you do.

Answer 2

Lol. that's funny. You said the she has a "history" of stealing "your" boyfriends! NO, don't check his phone, because even if you do find a phone number he's gonna deny it and flip the script on you, and it's gonna be a stale mate situation. Now if you know the girl has a "history", then don't check on him, check on her. I hope this isn't a friend. But don't allow it though. If she is up on your man in front of you, that is disrespectful and he is disrespecting you if he isn't doing anything. I would leave them both alone and keep pushin. But you also must consider that you need to find a man that won't go easily astray to mess around either. If a man is really diggin you then he won't get stolen, but he wouldn't let it happen either. Hope that helps.

Answer 3

Let me ask you this. If you check and find your boyfriend is flirting with this girl, then what will you do? It is terrible when you doubt a boys sincerity. It is terrible when you are afraid you will lose someone to someone else. You can either live with this fear and go snooping for proof that there is something going on between him and this girl, or else you can find someone else who is worthy of your love and who will not give you any cause for doubt. Just ask him if this girl is coming onto him, and if so, ask him if he is encouraging her, eg, does he text her back. If he is not encouraging this girl, then there shouldnt be a problem, but if he is then he is not being fair to you. If this girl has a history of trying to steal your boyfriends...note I say trying, that means she hasnt succeeded, therefore maybe you should give your boyfriend enough credit for knowing what type of a girl she is, and give yourself enough credit for knowing this girl has tried before and failed. Have faith in yourself....if your boyfriend wants this girl, then he doesnt deserve you, now does he? If she is continually texting him and he is texting her back then that is encouragement and he should not be doing that and is certainly enough reason for you to doubt. Maybe this girl just wants to get you jealous, but the boyfriend isnt responding. The only way you are going to know for sure is to ask him.

Answer 4

First off, confront your boyfriend about it. See if he notices what you notice too. Let him know that this bothers you, and that she's done this before. If he just neglects your feelings than you know he doesn't care enough -- and that's not a good relationship to be in. But anyways....if he agrees and sees what you mean try pulling her aside. Be HONEST with her. Tell her you mean no offense and that you don't want to be enemies, and that you just don't like how "friendly" she gets with your boyfriend. If need be, have HIM be there too, and add in some cents of his own. It's never easy but it can help.

Checking a phone is a big privacy thing, don't do it. If he doesn't care -- take the hint, and leave him before he hurts you.

Answer 5

you need to check the phone and everything that you can get your hands on.... he needs to let you see the messages,because if he doesnt let you see the text it means only one thing,he has something to hide,and the last thing you need is a doble back stab from either one of them,you need to stay away from her,and warn your boyfriend that you are an independant person and that if he has something to hide,you dont need either the rocky relationship or his inmature games with your mind,and tell the little hoe that she needs to check her self cause she is such a little slut tell her get her own,or do she enjoy surviving on slappy seconds...tell her just like that it will make her feel like what she really is a plate on a second hand table..... and if he can be hones with you and show you this messages,dont think twice kick him to the curve you can do way better than him...good luck.

Answer 6

Don't check up on him. If you want to be in a relationship with this guy you are going to have to trust him. If this girl does succeed in stealing him away consider that she has done you a favor. She will have kept you from getting emotionally involved with someone who obviously didn't value you or your relationship.

If he is a man, he will tell her that he is not interested both when you are there and when you are not.

Answer 7

I would check his phone. You can never be to careful with girls like that. They are disgusting. I hate girls that do that. I would make him show me what she is saying the text messages. If he doesn't I would be suspicious of what is going on. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

Have a long chat with your beau about your concerns about this gal because she has a history of chasing down guys and dumping them. He needs to understand where she is coming from.

You also need to tell him that you TRUST him, and you know that he will make the RIGHT DECISION when it comes to her, and leave the ball in his corner. You can't check up on him. You need to show him that he can make the right decision without you following up on him. Tell him you have confidence in him that he will make the right decision in dealing with this other gal.

Then back off and pray that he makes the right moves.

If he messes up, he'll do that in the future, and you can't live with someone you can't fully trust.

Answer 9

I think that the decision is entirely up to you if you feen uneasy about the relationship and you think that it will ease your mind to check the message i would do it there is no point letting it slide if you are going to contiue worrying. Good luck though

Answer 10

It's not worth checking up on him. If she was trying to steal your past boyfriends and it looks like she's trying again, I say move on. Tell her to back off your boyfriend and if he's true to you, there's no reason to be insecure. Also, confront your boyfriend! Tell him what you're feeling.

Answer 11

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do not ask him he will just say no EVEN IF HE IS!

Check his phone.. Figure out evrything when you have lots of proof or if you find any TELL HIM...

I made that mistake.. I know hes cheatin I even talk to the girl he cheated on me with. But I need more proof .... He wont admit it!