tommorow, we're having an inner-outer circle thing! basically the desks are placed in 2 concentric rings. the people in the inner circle have to ask a question and anonther answers, that person asks another question and so forth. then, we switch, with the outer circle people sitting in the inner circle and asking questions!! i dont know why but i'm nervous!! i mean its not even a speech or anything! im in 10th grade and i absolutely hate public speaking! how am i gonna live in this world or even get into a college when i'm not good at public speaking!
symptoms- 1) day before- start to get nervous and think about the next day
2) get read when speaking and stutter
3) dont feel like me when i'm talking in front of the whole class
4) feel inferior when public speaking
2006-10-05 14:06:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
*get red when public speaking
2006-10-05 14:07:24 · update #1
Will it help you if I told you that I was much much worse than you ?
I am now 25 . When I was in high school I used to feel scared of everything public that when the teacher would call the names to record the absence , I would choke and not utter my name correctly .
Can you imagine that ? I couldn't even say "yes" when the teacher would call my name , and after I said "yes" I would look around me to see the reaction of what I said on people's faces . Did they get that I am stupid from the way I said it ? what did they think about it ?
words like those used to come to my mind .
I don't know exactly what happened after that . Maybe I stopped caring . Maybe I convinced myself that it doesn't really matter . I mean , I still feel shy when I have to talk in public , but I don't let it affect me so much . Maybe I will do something stupid , maybe they will laugh at me , but who cares ??
In college I stopped caring to the extent that I used to be the funny guy in the class , I would make them all laugh . I gained more courage that I was able to do anything the "cool" guys wouldn't do . I just stopped worrying .
I am now a teacher . I have to face university students . Some times I feel very nervous , especially when it is the first class . I say to myself , even if I do something silly , it doesn't matter ,they will do silly things too . I won't judge them , and if they judge me because I stutter or mispronounce words or what ever , then it is their problem . Not mine .
2006-10-05 14:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel, I hate to speak in public as well. I am middle-aged and STILL cannot speak in front of a group - I turn red as a beet when I have to say anything during employee meetings at work! Angel's advice is good, practice with your family if you can, and when the moment comes in school: take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and for the circle thing look only at the person to whom you are speaking; if this were a situation in which you were to speak in front of a group, i.e. an oral presentation (back, demon!!) let your eyes rest briefly on different members of the group (your friends in class would be a good choice) and speak to them; and imagine them in their underwear, or wearing the clothing of the opposite sex, something totally silly like that (think: Neville Longbottom learning to deal with a boggart in the third Harry Potter movie/book). Remember as well that no one can make you feel inferior without your permission. Good luck, I know you will do well.
2006-10-05 14:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by flidais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all sweety you are not alone. I am in college and I still have a hard time. You will find out soon that evreryone (no matter how cool they look about it) hates it and is nervous about it like you are. But do try and think of it as it is just you and the person you are asking... How would you talk to them alone? at first you might get red.. it happens but once you get into it you might relax and actually try to do it more. Just take a deep breath and write in a journal tonight about how you feel. It helps to really get to the feelings out.. or talk to someone in the class about how nervous you are in private.. you may feel relieved your not alone. Good luck I know you can be strong!
2016-03-27 06:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure you will adapt to this situation. If anyone hated public speaking it was me. The first time I had to present (I was older than you) I was sure that I would need a change of underwear, but I got through it fine. It is natural for some people to be able to do this comfortably but for others like us, it takes time. I must admit I was nervous but as time goes on it becomes very easy. Now I give lectures and do not require notes.
2006-10-05 14:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by busyfingers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
There's loads of information on the site below. Most people get nervous, try to choose a topic that you know a lot about so that you're confident that the information is right - that gives you one less thing to worry about.
On the page below there's a book near the bottom of the page which is great and browse the other pages of the site for help/
2006-10-07 01:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by batesserea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a deep breathe and think what your gonna say before you start saying it. Good luck , often have that same problem. Just imagine your telling it to a friend. Once I get to know someone I hardly ever stutter around them.
2006-10-05 14:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Grev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah me too. I think classes like this are there for you to learn how to speak in public. Its OK. Learn from it and move on.
2006-10-05 14:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pretend everyone in there underwear!!or just ask the teacher!!or u could always ask ur family to come together in a group and practice in front of them!!
2006-10-05 14:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋