2006-10-05 14:04:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Depends on how close you were to them before. If they are older its up to them. If they are younger its up to who has custody of them now. If they are young and you still want to see them try and see what happens. If they are older then call them too don't expect them to be the only ones who call you.
2006-10-05 14:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this person meant LEGALLY speaking. And that would depend on if the biological mother was still in the picture or not. Actually, if the bio mom was still ALIVE. If she is, then I believe she would get automatic full custody of her kid(s) once thier father passed. The only way this WOULDN'T happen is if the bio mom had her rights revoked and the stepmom legally adopted the kids before the dad's passing. This asker COULD be asking this question because she's nervous that she could be LOSING her stepkids, folks!! She just lost her husband and is probably very close to her stepkids........to lose them too, because of the legal issues now involved, would be a tragedy and more loss for her to bear........especially if they have a great relationship. Geesh..........you all assume the wife WANTS the kids gone!! So negative!! If this question is coming from someone who really has lost her husband etc, I am so sorry for your loss :(
2006-10-05 15:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by D W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of depends on what all the players want, I would think. They'll always BE your stepchildren, of course, but the nature of your relationship with them may be impacted by other factors. Is their mother alive? I'm assuming you haven't adopted them because then you'd be "mom" not stepmom. Do you love them, and they you? Then you should be allowed to stay close even if they have to leave your home to live with their mom, and I imagine that a family court judge would support that (but I'm not a lawyer, so go ask one if you need to).
I'm very sorry for your loss.
2006-10-05 16:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do so many answer questions when they have no idea what they are saying. I guess they do get 2 points for showing their ignorance.
The answer can be yes or no. It depends on if they were your step children before the death. Just because you marry another with children does not mean the children are your step children.
2006-10-05 14:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think yes. When my father passed I still consider his second wife my step mother. She's a fine lady
2006-10-05 17:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask yourself this question, I would say you do not view them as such. That said, yes, they are still your step children. Maybe through this tough situation, your relationship can become stronger so that you can view them as your children and be the mother they need and they can comfort you in the loss of your spouse.
2006-10-05 14:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends on your situation. If you're close to the children, then of course they can still consider you their step-mother, if you are like a mother to them.
2006-10-05 14:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by alanna801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course they are. Why wouldn't you want them to be? If you love a man don't you love his children? I'm very sorry for your loss but it's going to be a hundred times worse for his children. Please think about that.
2006-10-05 14:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've legally adopted them, then yes--they're still yours and you still have responsibility for them. If not, I don't know. Good question.
2006-10-06 08:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't know the real answer to that but i would say it would depend on your relationship before he died.
2006-10-05 14:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by LOLO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋