Should I stay in UK or return to my country?

Question

I have been working in the NHS legally for 2 years now, in a job where no local person applied for. I pay my taxes, I am not eligible for public funds and I work hard. I am here because the money is good and I think my kids will have better opportunities in life. The way I am treated at work and in the society makes me think why I am doing this job for which I am overqualified. I had never thought people would consider me so alien that they wouldnt share a seat with me in a bus or train. If I go back, I will make much less money but will get much more respect. Should I go back or stay here for the money and the kids?

Answer 1

The fact that an immigrant to the UK in these circumstances feels the need to ask this question makes me ashamed of British society. You're more than welcome here in my book and I'm sorry you haven't been made to feel more welcome.

As to whether you should stay - that's your decision. But I wish you the best whichever you choose.

Answer 2

Change your job and, if you don't feel any better, then think again. Maybe you are at the wrong "social step". Find your like and you might feel better. Also, check if you actually make a statement with your appearance - if you look foreign and different, you will be treated as foreign and different. Adapting to life in a country means respecting and accepting the culture and the social codes - including accent, fashion trends, sharing the fun and the problems. Naturally, you cannot live in the same way as where you came from. So - think what would make you a happier person - sticking to your culture or adapting to the culture of the country, which is presently giving you a living. Good luck!

Answer 3

It is a delicate and important question, and the answer is that you are going to stay in the United Kingdom UNTIL you can be absolutely certain you have found a job opening which will guarantee you the same financial perks and benefits that you already have where you are. This is the classic "Don't burn your bridges" thing. Make certain you have the next rock to jump to, before you leave the one upon which you are standing. The second mouse gets the cheese. And there are probably a million other proverbs on this subject of making sure what you are going to (and want to go to, by the way) is every bit as good in all ways, as what you already have in the palm of your hand. Your children are gorwing up, so in a few years the whole nature of this question will change, and be a little easier for you to consider. I say you will be wise to return to your own country, and to your own countrymen, by all means, but not without first researching your position there so you are stepping preferrably UP into a really good job there instead of being stuck where you are. This is a polite way of telling you that it is a false assumption on your part that you cannot or will not do better in your own country than you are here in the United Kingdom. Good luck to you sifting through all this, and God Bless You for considering your children before yourself. Sent to you with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)

Answer 4

If your not happy where you are why dont you try looking for a job in a different area if you`ve been in your job for 2 years you`ve proved your self competant so may be you could get something better than your doing now I would at least give it a try. i can`t see why your treated bad at work when i `ve been to hospitals it allways seems that there are more foreign staff than English Don`t care about the bus thing English people don`t like to sit next to anyone unless theres nowhere else and if a double seat comes empty a lot of times they move places its like any where else here some people are nasty and a lot are nice give it another chance and good luck

Answer 5

There are still some good places left. Why don't you try a different country nearby. If UK wants to let go some of its best brains because they are a different color, so be it.

I understand you are an ENT specialist.
People of UK, will he be missed?

The problem is that the immigrants slog on doing their best for people in government who don't care a damn and a people who are fed the wrong facts about immigrants who genuinely contribute to the wellbeing of the society.

The people in the government know this fact and know that the immigrants will work no matter what. If the qualified immigrants leave, you can be fairly certain someone is bound to wake up.

The sad fact is the immigrants think only of UK and their own countries. That is a fallacy that is exploited by UK to the detriment of you immigrants.

Wake up to the fact that that there are other countries in the world besides UK!

...and to those who think you won't be missed, next time they clamour for better NHS they won't be missed either when they pass on for lack of a doctor or nurse.

Answer 6

Above and beyond anything else the happiness of you and your children is paramount. Does the money you earn and the potential opportunities for your children outweigh the prejudice and bigotry you are subjected to.
Your children may have the chance for a better education in the UK than in your home country, but are they likely to experience the same problems as you both now and in the future?
You need to consider which is more important - fiscal wealth or the emotional well-being of you and your family

Answer 7

you can't change some people opinions (why bother?) but you are providing better opportunities for yourself and your family. you holding down a job in the nhs for the last 2 years and pay taxes, nothing more is expected of you. you considering going back for less pay because of how a few uncharitable people treat you. c'mon get a grip of yourself. eventually you will meet some descent characters (by the law of averages this will happen) and you will forget the last two years. good luck to you and your family in the future.

Answer 8

If people are harsh towards you here, stand up to them and give it them back, believe me its the only way. I was born here to English and Polish parents so even I at times suffered racial abuse. Stand firm and they will back down as most of the bullies are really cowards. Work hard, pay your taxes like a good citizen and save as much money as you can for the sake of your kids.
When you have achieved your goal you may return to your homeland and your children, to a good peace full life and will think that it has been worth it. I believe that you are model parent in wanting better opportunities for your children. Stand firm, good luck and may god bless you..

Answer 9

this is a hard decision . it is happening for many people who travel to a foreign country . first let me ask you something . how do you know your children will be fine ? what if you lose them ? i mean they will grow up and don't care about you . now here it is . you wanna stay ? stay but you should be ready for the day they don't give a **** to you ! that's a cruel world . and if you go back maybe they will regret that why you came back . it's up to you . you should see how big is this gap between your country and UK . if it is not that much . go home . by the way it is UK people that they are very cold heart . Good luck !

Answer 10

I say, save some money and then return to your country, if this is what you really want. The kids deserve to grow up in their own country and then they can decide for themselves where they want to live where they grow up. And I think it's probably better to face a hostile society (as you picture it) as an adult than as a vulnerable small child, because as an adult you can understand the reasons behind peoples' behaviour and then put them behind you. If you have a good reason for that, of course.

Answer 11

I don't know where you're from, so I couldn't advise you to go back there.

Judging from some of the responses you've got, though, I don't know if the UK is a place I'd want anyone to bring up their children; if so many of the people are that downright rude/stupid/ignorant/racist, then why would anyone want to live there? Obviously many of them are lovely people, but do you really want to live around the rest of them?

Sorry this is no help, but without knowing where you're from I couldn't assess whether it was worth going back or staying. My own country (Ireland) can also be stupid and racist, but most of us wouldn't be quite so proud of the fact.