i don’t know if he is trying to control me or what? but he is really making me so mad. My bf he is so sensitive it seems that I have to watch what I say, because every time I say something he will remember it after a couple days and say u did this u said this?? I mean who does that? For example today he asks me that when he first said he loves me, what did I say?? I mean I don’t remember it was like a year ago so I told him that I said that I love him so much and he is the only men I want to be I was laughing about it and he said I am being serious so I said I don’t remember he got mad about it and he didn’t want to talk to me SO I SAID stop acting like a girl I want u to be a real men so he got so mad about it, so I went to his house to visit him he was usually home at that time so when I went to his house I called and I said where are, and he said why u going to show up on my door with out telling me and I said should I wait for u and he said I want be back and he was so ignorant about it. Why is he like that I my making him like that??? What should I do is that normal? And by the way he didn’t even call me to say o I am sorry I want home or something he is just so ignorant, and pulse I cant just ignore him for so long I make out with him. I need help
2006-10-05 13:58:23 · 14 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, I've always hated the term "Real Man" or "Real Woman". God made men & women and they are all Real. Weather they do what their supposed to do or is expected of them is a different story. Apparently, your man has a certain perception of what love is and he expects it to manifest itself in certain ways. You need to sit down explain that just because you express your love for each other in different ways, doesn't mean that you love him less than he does you. (Unless, that is the case) I tend to think, that's what he believes, from what your saying. You had to know before you got serious with him that he was sensitive. Tell him what you want and expect of him and find out what he wants and expects of you. If after you have a serious sit down talk, you still can't come to a concensus, then one or both of you have a decission to make as to weather or not you two still belong together. For some reason, I think that you already know the answer to that one but if not, talk to him, that's if you still think that he's worth it... If he doesn't discuss it with you, then you have your answer. That's just my opinion and I hope that it helps. Take care.
2006-10-05 14:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it sounds like a positive relationship, however I am only judging off what you have said. A relationship should be supportive, and make you happy!!! At times you have to put yourself first, because if its not a positive thing in your life... I'd say its time to either have a serious chat to him about these issues, or leave the relationship... if you dont feel that is right, maybe take a week or so to have "chill" time (time apart so you can breathe!). I think you have to stand up for yourself and your rights as a human. If he is controlling he may not want you to break up, however remember you have a right to start or end a relationship at any point. Good luck, I hope this helps!
2006-10-05 21:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by QQZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has issues and will always have issues, simple things are a problem for him. My guy also remembers things I say and to me it's just paying attention but in your case, your boyfriend seems to be a real baby. How long do you think you can endure that?
2006-10-05 21:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is very insecure and there's really nothing you can do about that, boys like that usually know what they are saying or doing so dont be confused why he is acting that way, its a control thing, they can mess with your emotions and u can find someone else who wont mess with your mind like that. just stop talking to him and hang out with your other friends or get a hobby. take care.
2006-10-05 21:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This simple answer is dump him. Dont you think you deserve someone better that will treat you with a bit of respect. He obviously has none for you. He carries on like a child. Finish it and go find someone that will treat you well.
2006-10-05 21:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a personality disorder. Get away from him. You should get some counseling. No simple answer on this forum is going to be enough to cure all your problems.
2006-10-05 21:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by angry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once, you need to find someone that can make you happy instead of having to live with pety stuff like that.
2006-10-05 21:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, super long question.
If someone is that controling I myself would say screw that.
If he really makes you happy, try to confront him about it.
If not, you can probably find another hombre.
2006-10-05 21:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geee, Sounds Crazy to me......I think you should forget him to be honest. Maybe when You grow up you will realise you dont have to put up with all of this!
2006-10-05 21:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats too long to read..but skiimin through i cud tell hes a p*ssy
2006-10-05 21:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋