What should I do, my lil sister stays with me, she has no job but she has alot of dude coming to see her?

Answer 1

Lay down the law to her. Set limits and make her at least clean house while waiting for a job. Its called tough love.

Answer 2

Try to monitor her time. See if she will enroll in the after school program, or a club that meets after school. Talk with the guidance counselor at school about your sister's behavior as they can be a very good support for both of you.

Then, go home and list everything good about your sister. Then make notes on the following:

Sit down with your notes and your sister and ask her exactly what she plans to do this year. Is getting a job part of the plan? What about grades? What is the lowest she can bring home without getting grounded? What does she plan on doing as her part of the housekeeping? Help her to make decisions that help her to become independent and responsible.

Tell her you no longer can allow men in the house. Arrange to have a caretaker there if you need to leave her alone. (A neighbor, a friend, an aunt). Or if you can, take her along to do the shopping and the errands. If she won't go, you don't go. When all the food is gone, she'll go to the store with you. If she still won't go, go eat a hamburger with a friend for dinner and leave her with the sitter. Do make sure she is in someone's care if you are not at home. She needs to earn your trust on this one. Repeat the sit down with notes session as needed.

When you sit down to say all this to your sister speak to her with respect. Respond to any issues she may have. Do not react. Take a breath, think about what you want to say, and calmly say it. Just respond. Let her know that these are the rules. Any time she questions you you only need to say, "I want some respect in my own home." and walk away.

You may want to apply with social services for subsidized housing and any other assistance they offer for persons supporting a minor. Look into child support. Are your parents helping to support her or is it all on you? Filing is an action you take in favor of the child, not Against a parent. Do see if you can get some financial help.

God bless you for what you are doing, dear. You won't see quick results of the actions you take now, but aim for the end result, she has you in her corner, and you're both gonna do just fine.

Answer 3

Set down and talk with her and have her give you a time frame on how long before she has her own job, apartment etc. See if you can first get a commitment from her as to when she's going to move out (before you have to throw her sorry butt out yourself). Also, she is really taking advantage of you by having all these men coming over. Lil sister's running your home. Not you...

Answer 4

It is very hard to live with siblings. The feelings of looking out for them always comes to surface. Until she learns to be responsible of paying bills and rent then she can never really become the mature person she needs to be. As a big sister you may feel that she has to much company. Make sure she is on birth control.

Answer 5

Tell her to get a job, stop mooching, or she can move her butt out and live with one of her dudes. Just because she's your sister, doesn't mean you have to support her lazy as*. Tell her to grow up, get a job, and start contributing something. You are not her mother. If she is going to live on her own it's time to start acting like an adult.

Answer 6

If she is old enough to get a job then enforce that she starts looking now. As far as the guys in your home, well its exactly that "Its your Home" so remind her of it...... Time to start handing out some rules of the house, if she doesnt abide by them, tell her to find somewhere else to live. If shes a minor and you cant control her find some help to resolve the issue.

Answer 7

What's the matter with a little sister having friends ? I would be happy to still have my little sister around with a lot of friends. Unfortunately she passed away when she was 30.... Of course if she's hooking,it is different but in that case I wonder why you even ask.

Answer 8

Well first I would not put up with guys coming and going. She needs to get a job and be responsible for her own life. You have to take charge since she is living in your house. Try to show her positive ways to live her life.

Answer 9

Tell her to get a job and help out with things or get out. She doesn't need to be havin all kinds of dudes over at the house and your allowing it. And since your allowing it shes thinking that its okay since you haven't said anything to her. Good luck.

Answer 10

So, what exactly are you saying here??? You don't say how old she is??? Is she 13, 14, 16 or 18???? She can get a job, let her know she has to pay her share. She can't be entertaining these guys and not paying her share!!! If she is entertaining???