Is it cool to bring a lot of different people around your kids while you try to figure out which one is going to be long term, or do you just have to go out on a date and call it a night?
2006-10-05 13:37:06 · 7 answers · asked by laedeb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been a single parent of two for 10 years. The rule I have always used is that until I know the person well, I don't bring them around my kids. After I have gotten to know the guy, I will let him come over to my house so the kids feel more comfortable. I don't know how old your children are but I always explain when I am dating someone that it is not a gaurantee that they will be around for long but we can enjoy his company while he is here. That has worked well so far and mine are now 11 and 14. Maybe it isn't the correct way and things might be easier to let anyone around them but it makes me nervous to bring guys that I don't know around my kids. Hope this helps.
2006-10-05 13:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by stacy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never bring women around my children. I'm not looking for a mom for my kids. its hard but i get along being both. if there is something i don't know that one of my daughters ask me i go and look it the answer on line. when i have a date its for me and only me. if one day i do find a woman and decide to marry again. then that will be the one that sees more than just pictures of my children. its your personal preference tho. before i was a dad and ladies would bring me around there children it always seemed a little awkward for me and their children. then when she and i decided we weren't meant to be together the child /children would needlessly be hurt over things they don't understand. so no, as a father and having been on most sides of this spectrum i would say its not good or healthy to bring someone around that your just dating. it was also confusing when i was a child and my mom did it to me.
2006-10-05 20:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by oderus138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that if I could do it over, I would have my dating away from my child. I think bringing alot of people around just confuses them. I didn't do that and I really wish that I would of kept dating seperate and not brought the guy around. This dating should be between you and him and not you're child.
2006-10-05 20:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring different people around my baby . . she might get confused seeing all the different faces all the time . . . I would say wait until you find the "one" and then bring him around the kids . . .
2006-10-05 20:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the age of the children. When they get to that point were they are remembering who you bring home, it's time to cool it.
2006-10-05 20:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't put them arround your kids
it's make you kids inscure , they see new dads coming and going so they don't beleive in poeple who stay with them
just keep it apart form your kids & when you found a right one , show it to kidz !
sorry for my bad english
gl
2006-10-05 20:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Soap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful how frequently u let ur chikdren see u change men or d will grow up thinking "mummy is a s l u t"
2006-10-05 20:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋