Ellie, my friend has left her b/f of two years because he said something which was so bad that she can't carry on their relationship. She won't say what it is and she is in a state of shock, I think. Has anyone had a similar experience because I want to know how to help her.
2006-10-05 13:20:34 · 8 answers · asked by poppy vox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like she was taken for a loop and he used her real bad just be there for her, cause once she comes out of her shock she will truly need you again PS: she will tell you just be prepared for her good luck
2006-10-05 13:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is be there for every step of the let your friend know that you care and that she can trust you taking into account she is in a state of shock you don't want to push her and rush her if you take the softtly softly approch with and let her know that you are there for day and night no matter what time when she is ready to talk you will find that she will open up to you in situations like this it's never good to rush as that can lead to even more stress take the fact that your friend loved this guy and her has hurt her really badly she proberly feels like she has hit rock bottom all you can do when someone hits rock bottom is watch out for them show them love and when their ready help pick up the pieces it may be hard for you to just sit back and wait until your friend is ready but that is the best way just remember that rome wasn't built in a day things take time best of luck to you and your friend.
2006-10-06 02:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Denver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend what you can do for the time being is to give your total support and attention to her...as you mention that she is in shocked regarding w/ her previous relationship...maybe you don't have to leak out what did she gone through as it might cause her not to recover from the shocked...try to encourage her to move on and help her to heal the wound she have in her heart...Time will come,if every thing's back to normal.....perhaps she can able to tell you what was really happened to her...but not this time.
2006-10-05 20:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by msshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a woman say something devastating to me once. i couldn`t tell anyone either. i had to just carry on. ur friend is a bit luckier because she has u. she may tell u one day wot he said but in the mean time just be a good friend to her that u are. she`s also in shock because it ended suddenly. her pain will ease wiv time u`ll see
2006-10-06 12:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOrget about him and his words Her life is too precious to think about such things. Instead she should look for new horizons. Just b there for her and dont say ne thing negative.Help her to find a person who brings out the best in her.
2006-10-06 01:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, can't think of anything to say that would be so bad to end a 2 year relationship unless it was really unstable. Are you sure he hasn't done something?
2006-10-06 05:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by break 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should take a recorder and talk about it and then listen to what she said alone she will start to get the felling out of her self and then she should wright what is the positive things she gain out of braking the relation now and after that with a little support she will start to talk and forget that ex b/f.
2006-10-05 21:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by HAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing how can you help. Just be there for her.
2006-10-06 08:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋