I'm in high school and recently went on a student exchange to China for several weeks. I met a girl there whom I started seeing and became very close to. Unfortunately, it was inevitable that I would have to return home (to Canada). I can still talk to her online, but I miss her a lot and am completely unable to see her. Is this relationship worth pursuing with the hope that I may see her again someday? I'm very serious about this question. I can't stop thinking about her. Please lend some advice, though be kind with your words, I'm sure I'll hear from a lot of people telling me I'm out of my mind.
2006-10-05 13:18:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that she feels as strongly for me as I do for her, probably more so.
2006-10-05 13:27:37 · update #1
Youre not out of your mind, I have had a long distance relationship for over 2yrs now, we met online first but then met in person. I travelled to the USA and stayed with him for 3mths after he first visited me here in Aus. I often wonder if it will ever go anywhere, but for the time being we value each others friendship and are each others best friends. I think that if nothing else we have that much.The painful part is when you first leave each other but that will ease as time goes on.
2006-10-05 13:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont say you are out of your mind but be honest with yourself, what are the chances that you will go back to China? Long distance relationships dont usually survive, from what I can see there are a lot of Asain women living in Canada , why not look for one a little closer to home? You can continue to be friends with the girl in China but I honestly dont see any way to make it work, sorry.
2006-10-05 13:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the military and only see my fiance about 20 days a year, if that, so I know all about the long distance thing working. In your case I would say that unless you know for a fact that she feels as stronly for you as you do for her it is just going to hurt both of you in the long run. You would need to be stronger than I have been and it has been a rough time. If you really have feelings for her I would say keep it at the friend level and move on. You won't like putting her through the pain of constantly missing you.
2006-10-05 13:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by C-Dubs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say pursue it!!!!!!
I was in a similar situation before. I am from germany and met someone traveling in the USA. I had to go back and he went on his way in the Navy. Everything went fine for a long time, but then due to circumstances and just plain old life itself we lost contact.
And now after 11yrs found eachother again and are in a long distance relationship again. Just now I live in the states as well. And we are planing for the future. Coming to find out he could never forget about me just like he was stuck in my head all these yrs. We truly beliefe we were ment to be.
So don't give up on it. It will hunt you for the rest of your life. It did with us all these yrs. Good Luck to you both!!!!!!!!
2006-10-05 13:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by shortstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. Life is full of surprise you never know what's going to happen. It's hard to have a long distance relationship however if you two really like each other and is willing to work things together anything can happen. Believe in yourself and her. You never know you might do a study abroad in China =). Don't be afraid and follow your heart.
2006-10-05 13:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by weniki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're NOT out of your mind. lol cause to tell you the truth I'm in the same situation at this very moment. I'll tell you what my mom told me. If you love her/ like her enough you guys will make it. I'm not going to lie long distance relationships don't usually work out but if its ment to be it'll work. Wait til your out of high school and go see her. Keep talking to her and maybe her her number, write letters, pictures. If this all fails maybe you guys can be friends. so good luck to you and I hope you make it.
2006-10-05 13:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not out of your mind...your in love.
the sad thing about your relationship with this girl is that unfortuantly, it may be difficult and maybe not worth taking forward. i know its hard...really hard...to understand it, but a highschool long-distant relationship can really try to last long, but it only tries.
seeing her one day is something you may llok forward to. overral, im really sorry to say that you two might be better off friends. if you love her enough, you'll let her live her life a little before settling on the decision of being with you.
best of luck to both of you! hope i helped!
2006-10-05 13:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both of you have feelings for each other and if she is okay with the set up..ya know long distance relationship..why don't you give it a shot....if you feel it's worth trying then go ahead.....and how to make it work? communication...communication.. you have to communicate with her everyday..through emails.. or if you hve the money u can call her..... ya know.. eventhough you are far away... and ur doing these things....it's like u are just in china in other city though...
good luck to u and i hope it would work..
2006-10-06 13:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time also ask your parents about going back over there when school is out for the summer
2006-10-05 13:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating
2006-10-05 13:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by ;p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋