The problem is "Everyone is just so much in a hurry to just "jump in the sack" that they dont take the time to just get to know each other first. No wonder there are so many STD's out there. And if you meet them "On-line", you really never know what your getting!
2006-10-05 13:00:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey!!! i'm a decent guy. i swear i am!! you want to see my drivers license? it says "decent guy."
2006-10-05 13:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try getting involved with a gym program or an interest group. Take lessons in something you have never tried. You will meet new people and get to know them in a casual manner before jumping into the sack.
2006-10-05 13:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there a lot of decent men out there. You meet them all the time, but you have to make your preferences known, men do respect women who know what they want, it is so much easier than mind reading, or guessing,or good old wish full thinking. Speak up and you will be heard by the right person, remain silent and take what comes along
2006-10-05 13:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey- you are right down my alley . i guess my question is -why doesnt everybody else think that way. its all about getting laid even if they arent good at it . and wheres the romance - if you dont have that special connection its just not the same! and the std thing -ive never had any of that crud and im not gonna go there either. i cant tell you how refreshing it is to hear a woman actually echo what ive been sayin for the last 10 years . SCARY OUT THERE!!!!!.....
2006-10-05 13:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there are decent men out there.
The problem is the decent "nice guys" are the ones most women reject in favour of the confident exciting jerks, then wonder why they can't seem to find a decent guy.
If you want a decent man, choose one. I don't know why so many otherwise intelligent women seem to just not be able to understand something so simple.
2006-10-05 13:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decent men are probably hard to find but they are ut there. I understand the whole jump in the sack thing and that is true. Its hard to believe but there are guys out ther who are willing to date you without "sex payback". I use to wonder too but after a couple of acquaintances i found the answer. Good guys are hard to find but they are there.
2006-10-05 13:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a decent guy right here. The last thing I want is to get some girl pregnant. I'm more concerned about having someone to love and to cuddle with. I've never been in a relationship and sex is the last thing on my mind.
2006-10-05 13:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Leonard W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me there are girls out there who also just want a one night stand.
As far a nice guys there are some and i'll even tell you how to find them and make sure your man is one.
After years of clubbing and lots of went nowhere relationships it came to me that i'm probably not going to find the future Mrs. Sprydle that way. I mean i did have some decent romances out of it but nothing really solid.
I met my wife via my roommate (who was also female) and i also noticed that all the long term better relationships i had were with ladies i met via friends, at events, people i work with, at resturants, etc.
You want to express some control over the meeting or date so that it doesn't get to a point where sex would be expected. So no going to his place or your place agree to meet somewhere public at a certain time and take seperate cars. No having him take you anywhere until later.
As you talk to him is he actually talking? What is he saying if he talks mainly about himself or his interests? He needs to actively listen so a good way of checking is to talk about something and ask him what he thinks. Does he look you in the eyes or the areolas?
Watch his behavior if he's looking away a lot chances are he's checking out other girls unless there's a game on the tv's in the bar (try picking a place with no tv's).
Keep him at a distance at first make him earn trust before you give it and one thing that works really well is to find out what he's like from the women in his life. Ask people who work with him. One girl i dated for a year asked my previous girlfriend what i was like and asked my roommate. See if he has a close relationship with his sister.
Finally invite him to a cool down date where you know he'll keep his libido under control. Invite him to church, to a charity function you're helping out with, to your kids early morning soccer game any kind of family or community or religious setting. If he shows up cheerfully and with a good attitude he might be worth it. If he seems easily distracted then he's doing it just to look good for you so he can get in your pants.
I've had girlfriends who would not have sex with me but we found ourselves so wrapped up in other activities and i was so captivated by their stength, patience, courage and commitment to self in keeping their virginity until marriage it made me care for them all the more.
Hope this helps but yes this good man is very much taken.
2006-10-05 13:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by sprydle 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men are like parking spaces, the good ones are either handicap or taken
2006-10-05 13:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by tammy c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it dpends on what ambient you put yourself in sweetie. you go to bars and clubs you're gonna find a bunch of grab-asses. the decent men are at gyms, bookstores...homedepot. good luck.
2006-10-05 13:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot my dear.Try look a good one by honest communication.
2006-10-05 13:07:26 · answer #11 · answered by Alexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋