Im in the process of divorce and Im trying to find myself again. However I am very lonely as well as a little depressed and wish that I could find a girl to start a new relationship with. I have 2 kids with my ex and life is very stressfull. I never feel like going out and doing things so I dont know how I will ever meet anyone or just have any fun. I listen to alot of music to get me by. How do I get myself happy enough again to get out in the world and look for someone.
2006-10-05 12:57:11 · 14 answers · asked by P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Join a local gym! That would be a great way to get out, meet people, and work out & exercise! All of which will make you feel much better about your self. Working out has so many mental & physical benefits!
2006-10-05 13:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about trying to find the next replacement for the ex-wife already. there's nothing wrong with going out and meeting new people, but if you have that frame of mind that you need 2 find someone to make you happy, you'll be depressed for a long time.if you can't be happy with yourself, you won't be happy with anyone else. just try to get along with day to day life right now and things should fall in place 4 you. if you weren't motivated before to go out and do things, this should be just the motivation you need. most likely, you just need someone to talk to. e-mail if you get bored enough....sweetmama0504@yahoo.com
2006-10-05 13:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are out exploring the things that make you happy, she will find you. At this point in your recovery, you don't want to go to bars and clubs and pick up women there... That will get you nowhere or hurt again.
Pursue an interest of your own, like joining a co-ed bowling league, or taking a class in something, or volunteering at a place that has many volunteers at one time, or something that will interest you. A new lady friend will appear, and you will already have your interest in common...
2006-10-05 13:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going through a divorce right now...then why on earth would you want to be driven in the arms of another woman? Give yourself some time to heal first. We all have these feelings when one goes through a divorce but you can't let it get the best of you.
2006-10-05 13:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first is first, fix yourself. if you go out and find a girl you will only scare her away with your issues. fix your kids, your ex. be a father first, then when enough time be a bachelor. and when you do,get rid of the stress, take dancing lessons or go to a gym, there are many single mature women out there that will find you an attractive anomaly. if not there is always mail in brides from Australia!
2006-10-05 13:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just going to have to get out there because it not going to come knocking at your door so even if it at the store libary or at a park where people may be try to smile and have good time don't let life just slip away like I've almost done 43 divorced 20years and still alone if you get to use to being alone it will be harder to let some one in .been ask 3 time and I said no so I think I've been alone to long.
2006-10-05 13:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by Heart-of-Hearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haven`t you got any friends?Go out with them....do the things you used to do before knowing your ex,move on with your life,think about it,that life goes on whatever will happen,and that you have to think now about you.nothing else matters ,just you to find a new way in your life,another love,and maybe this time will be forever.
stand up for yourself and never let the head down...you disurve a better life.
2006-10-05 13:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are depressed, now may not be the best time to get involved. The girls will know that they are a rebound, and as such, it wont last. wait for a while and join a gym.
2006-10-05 12:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by James S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surgery
2006-10-05 12:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the process you are going through will shape your character and make you stronger, make new goals for yourself, give yourself a reason to wake up in the morning, dont focus on meeting someone new instead focus on meeting the new you!
2006-10-05 13:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by lavidamasespecial1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋