She recently got drunk and was over her brother house partying with her friends and a guy she used to be with called her up and she decided to go hang out with him and they ended up having sex.. she told a couple days later crying her heart,she even tried of couple times to stab herself.she said that she was sorry and didn't mean it and wanted to still be together. The reason she said was that she got drunk and real emotional and needed someone to talk to and being as though it was late and she knew I had to work she felt that they could talk and thats all she planned on doin but one thing lead to another. she said that because she was drunk she just wasnt thinkin straight.. Should I leave or stay?
2006-10-05 12:39:30 · 19 answers · asked by Righton21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From a girls point of view, leave! I hate to tell you but she knew what she was doing. Even though she was drunk, she had a desire to be with the ex & she made the choice to sleep with him. If you stay with her then she knows she has you wrapped around her finger. She will continue hurting you again & again; she might not sleep around but there will be things she will do that will make you feel bad. There are plenty of other girls out there who have more self control. Trying to stab herself is a huge cry for attention & wanting you to feel sorry for her. DO NOT GIVE HER ANOTHER CHANCE! Be with someone who values your relationship!
2006-10-05 12:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm? Honestly tell her if she can meet your requests then only will you give her another chance. like... She has to call her ex and tell him she is sorry that she cheated on u with him, and she will not be calling him anymore, and she would appreciate him not ever calling her. Tell her to make the call in front of ya too. If she has a problem with that then nope don't take her back. I have to say that isn't a hard request to prove she is really sorry. cutting herself shouldn't make you belive her. If a guy cut hiself for me i'd leave his crazy azzz the hell alone cause if a person hurts themself they can sure reee bob as hell hurt ya. She can cut herself all she want but make her call him to cut him off, in front of you. People do all kinds of strange, weird and dumb things to try to convince a person of something. Instead of them doing what should be done. Good Luck
2006-10-06 03:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody deserves to have a chance and everybody commits mistakes..besides to err is human,right?
if you feel that you would like to take a chance with her..then go ahead for as long as you love her and that incident didn't bother you... you'll never know ur relationship with her will work out for the better..
but if you feel that u can't forgive her what she did,that you can't help thinking of it everytime u see her..then u are not yet ready..better be alone ..u need a big space to think things over...
whatever decisions you will make it still has consequences,disadvantages and advantages that you have to think.....
listen to ur heart and take time also listen to ur mind.. i know it's kinda heart coz mind and heart never comprise..but it will agree to one thing... that u love her
2006-10-06 11:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by weakest Link! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is decide can you accept what she did. If you can and is willing to forgive her and decide that you want to pursue this relationship then try and rebuild the relationships.
There will be trust issues. You have to decide is your relationship worth fighting for.
The easiest thing in the world to do is to stay in the relationship because you are afraid of the unknown or what she will do to herself. Don't forget to think about you and prioritize your needs.
2006-10-05 19:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by dscot399 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to hit the road, what is going to happen the next time she goes over to male friends house?? She is going to get drilled, thats what
2006-10-05 19:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave or get back with her and do the same thing she did To her.
2006-10-05 19:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a second chance and she if you can sleep with one of her friends. Or with her and her friend.
2006-10-05 19:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by DR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she dont get drunk and give her second chance.
2006-10-05 19:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by OpenMinded 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she seem sreally soryy for what she did, and yeah, i would give her another chance. i would make sure it dosen't ahppen again though. drink is a really bad thing, it makes us do, what we don't mean. tell her that you will be there to talk to no matter what time it is.
2006-10-05 19:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by NY Lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate cheaters, and honestly believe she deserves a second chance.
2006-10-05 19:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋