I have recently met nice young man.
My condition means no sex.... having an operation end of year, but recovery time could take months.
I have explained to him and he seems happy to wait.... but i think the reality hasnt sunk in.
Shall i end relationship now and stop any heart ache?
He is in army.... shall i set him free to have fun? I dont want him to feel lumbered with this problem.
2006-10-05 12:28:13 · 23 answers · asked by CorporalPickles. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems the pressure of having a new man in your life is too much if you have the stress of an impending operation
Why not explain that to him, and say "lets be friends and see how things play out when i am recovered".
That will stop you worrying and take the pressure of his expectations off you.
If he stays in contact and you get back together when you feel you are ready to, then you know he really cares about you and that he was with you for more than sex in the first place.
2006-10-05 12:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by PEP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let him make that decision i started dating a lady about 5 years ago and when we started she told me that she was having a operation the next month and didn't now how long before we could have sex so i stuck by her side through the operation and in about three months she was healed to have sex and it was worth the wait but we did broke up about 3 years later but not for that reason cause of her family problems but she still remembers what i did for her and we still remain good friends to this day.
2006-10-05 12:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he really likes you he will understand. A relationship isn't just about sex, it's about having fun, being comfortable with the other person, and knowing that they'll be there in the good and bad times. If all he wants is sex HE will end the relationship. Relax!!! Maybe your the one wanting sex more than him. Good luck!!!
2006-10-05 12:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by peaceful24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely more to a relationship besides just the sex. Why would you want to end something that's working really well for the both of you? He sounds like a very nice guy. I think it would be a selfish thing....to break his heart.
2006-10-05 12:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope that he goes on Operational tour of duty then he will have to wait until he gets back.
Hopefully you will be ok then,
And youll be both be itching for it.
I can tell you if he does go on operation he will get no SEX. (well he might with other boys)
Just checked some of your otherquestions........ Are you gonna make your mind up if your a boy or a girl??
2006-10-05 12:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the important thing is that u have been honest with him so its up to him to make a choice. Dont forget there r many ways to make love, not just penetration, so dont worry, u and your partner can have lots of fun doing everything and anything else under the sun. The important thing is to enjoy....:)
2006-10-05 12:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by english_rose10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this person realy cares for you then sex should'nt realy be that big of issue. there are plenty ways of enjoying sex without actually any penetration. watch a adult movie and follow the way they do it. oral and anal sex is the second optian. you will be surprised how on a human body parts when having sex is never explored.go to a book store and buy a copy of kuma satra.
good luck......
2006-10-05 18:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by perzi c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, you said he has agreed to wait, I don't see what the problem is if you care about him...Unless you really don't care for him and want to hurt him right now to prevent him from hurting you in the future...the fact that he's in the army has little to nothing to do with the issue...If you care for him then respect the fact that he has agreed to wait and see what happens...not like you have anything to lose and he's old enough to make his own decision...
2006-10-05 12:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be biased but i recently got out of the army and know what the majority of squaddies are like 9 out of 10 are interested in one thing only and i know a lot of young girls who have been hurt by this never mind the ones with (complications)yes i know what you are thinking.but he seems realy nice.if you are not sure DONT get involved,i got married whilst in the army and did not like the way i saw my friends treating women so i got out,when i look back it makes me shudder to see how many young girls are used and upset by squaddies.good luck and keep it in mind.
2006-10-05 12:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by matc1970 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reality is the only thing that hasn't "sunk in." Neither has he or his little buddy. He'll sink it in wherever he can until your physically receptive and able. Get used to it! Or else, get ready for symptoms of lock jaw and tennis elbow!
2006-10-05 12:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋