Is it normal to hate a Holiday if you don't have anyone to celebrate it with, not even family?

Question

The last time I felt I had a christmas Celebration was before my mother had a stroke, and ended up in a nursing home. I would visit her there often, I would spend a couple of hours with her watching movies, because she wasn't able to talk, and she was my only reletive that I knew. Then when she died last January of 2005, I felt more misrable that I did not get to spend time with a family member. Other famlies seem to keep it to themselves. What should I do. Thanksgiving,christmas,New years I feel so alone, and majorly depressed.

Well also, I have a hard time socializing because. I believe i gave people rescect, treated them with kindess. I don't seem to get the return, and I really don't have much to say. I ride the bus, and when there's no bus I have to find rides, and if i can't find rides, and can't join anyone. I'm like 23 live on SSI income which isn't very much, and I always feel like i'm being judged or talked about. I would love to have someone to talk to me and cares for me. Cause I feel lonley everyday. No one sits on the bus with me on the way home, and then I go to my apartment where I live by myself. I got to school full time, i went because i wanted a social life, and haven't really got one, i've been through four semesters, and sorta made one. Everyone thinks i'm invisible, or can't fit in with them type of people.

Answer 1

It is normal, but not recommended. Do you have any friends, especially with fair-sized families? Many people would be glad to set another plate at the table on the holiday. You are going through a difficult time having lost your mother; but you must move on. Another idea, is to volunteer at a soup kitchen for holidays; it's fun! Or, if you prefer, have a quiet spiritual holiday on your own. (I just realized that I am in a similar situation: my daughter left home under extremely unpleasant circumstances, and don't expect to see her for the holidays. I'm not sure what I am going to do for holidays, but I'm not worried about it.)

Answer 2

Try to meet some nice people at work or at church. I can't imagine the pain you're feeling, but I certainly wish you peace and I pray that God connects you with some sincere and truly wonderful friendships that will last for a lifetime. I've exchanged phone numbers with people I met in the grocery store so if you present yourself as a friendly person you can become a magnet that draws others to you. Please take good care of yourself and trust that all your tomorrows will be better than your reality today.

Answer 3

I feel bad that you can't look forward to holidays. I'm really sorry. Have you considered helping others who are in a dire situation, for example, feed the homeless, nursing homes, orphanages, etc. When you do this, you may realize that you don't have it quite as bad as it seems. And, it makes you feel really good to see how your efforts make others smile. If you were here, I would take you in to share a holiday with me and mine. Remember, things will get better. What you are experiencing now will make you the person you are meant to be.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that you don't have any family to spend the holidays with but Make a friend or friends to spend time with. Then when it comes to the holidays i'm sure they'd invite you to spend the holidays with them. Or if you don't have a bf find a bf make your own family. Good luck.

Answer 5

try to make friend at work go to a single club to meet someone or get involved with someone and start your own family and makeyour own holidays

Answer 6

yeah it makes sence to be mad but dont hate the holiday. its not its fault. Just branch out, meet new people and find someway to be with someone you love