I'm a very attractive woman. perfect body, exotic looks, and very smart. when people talk to me I really convey it. the problem is when men meet me me they get all caught up in my looks and body. now i do not dress like a hoochie. no short skirts or tight clothes, ok, maybe jeans are tight but that is all. anyway. we go out. they get all caught up in my looks and when I tell them that I'm old fashioned and do not kiss on a first date or sexs is basically out of the question for a while, they bounce. are any men looking for a serious relationship or are all of you just trying to get laid. because if that is the truth I will prepared to be the best looking old maid
2006-10-05 12:00:24 · 9 answers · asked by cinnamon43212002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
men just dislike being rejected, thats all even though what you just described isnt rejection(your very admirable by the way) they just feel like they arent getting a woman whos going to bow to them, men hate that
2006-10-05 12:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those guys are crazy. I dont know about every guy, but im looking for a girl just like you. I want a girl who is beautiful, but not a slut. Someone who wants to take things slow and not jump in the sheets right away. Just wait until you find a guy thats worth it, because those guys now are gonna regret leaving just because you didnt want to have sex.
2006-10-05 12:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ant 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, that seems to be the current trend these days....and it goes both ways. Girls complain about not meeting decent guys, but usually wont give one the time of day.
2006-10-05 12:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule #8 - If you are not getting laid by the 3rd date, dump her and move on.
No guy is going to hang in there if he thinks he isn't 'getting any' at some point. Decency has nothing to do with it.
2006-10-05 12:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like my kind of gurl. A woman that repsects herself attracts me to her. I think hoes and hoochies degrades real women. You must be truly beautiful on the inside and outside.
2006-10-05 12:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me try to put this in a way that you can understand. I have a powerful mind (4 college degrees, published author, IQ... well, way past Mensa). I don't try to act or appear bright, but that "intellect" just leaks out in everything I do; with every word I speak. It tends to be the first thing people notice when we meet.
What if I went out with someone, but I told them up front I wasn't interested in sharing my thoughts with them, even a little? That any kind of intelligent conversation was pretty much off the table until far, far along in the relationship? I'd be willing to share my heart and feelings; even my body, but my mind was off limits. How would she feel? First, the part of me that most attracted her is the very part I've made unattainable. Second, I am not offering her a relationship with me as a whole person. I'm only offering her pieces, and then under strict conditions. I doubt she would be interested in investing all of her for only a part of me. The best ones, with self-confidence and strength, would walk away. This is exactly what you're doing physically, rather than mentally. It is not surprising most men aren't interested in investing all of them for only a part of you.
I would never want to be with someone who desired only my mind; just as you should not be interested in a man who only desires your body. But I would not expect a woman to separate her feelings for one part of me from her feelings about the rest. I would hope she would see me as a whole person; care for me and desire me as a whole person; not just one part.
A woman's body can be attractive to a man (it's designed to be). Your body is a strong asset. Even without emphasis, it just leaks out in everything you do; every step you take. It tends to be the first thing men notice when you meet. You perceive them to be only interested in you physically (which may sometimes be true, but certainly not always). For most, it is the part of you that attracts them to the whole person. Then you tell them, clearly, that it's "off the table". You are forcing men NOT to see you as a whole person, but as a woman separated from her body. You're expecting them to love you in pieces, not as a whole person. Any man worth having would not be willing to invest all of himself for pieces of you. The best of them, those with self-confidence and strength, walk away. You perceive this as them being "only" interested in you physically, and it reinforces your perception of men. The truth is, they are not willing to invest all of them for a part of you; and rationally so.
2006-10-05 13:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by antirion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats just a way of making sure you find the right person. Believe me, it sucks waiting, cause i still am, but "good things come to those who wait".
2006-10-05 12:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I never met one. They are always lying about looks and body.
2006-10-05 12:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i like and respect decent women like you!
2006-10-05 12:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kalooka 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋