I thought I was in love with him, but I couldn't be if I find myself liking someone else right?
2006-10-05 11:40:18 · 24 answers · asked by Kei L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u can still love him and be attracted to someone else. ask your self what does this new guy have that u're attracted to that your bf doesn't. is it money? style? charm? and u qualify it? quantify it? does he have more of something that ur man is lacking? u can totally think someone else is hotter than ur man...and still love him. ask yourself if u're happy and if he makes u happy.
2006-10-05 11:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not too unusual. You are probably pretty young. You may be in love with him, but still find somebody else attractive. Do you think that us old married women never find other men attractive? Hee hee. Men & women both are always still attracted to others of the opposite sex.
What's most important is what you feel you want to do about that. If you are thinking of trying to keep them both on the string, that would be a mistake. Just think about how you would feel if you found out he was interested in somebody else.
If it's just an attraction, a little flirting, nothing more... let it be and enjoy it. You do not need to break up with your boyfriend every time you see somebody else you like. That would be silly.
Window shopping is fine... just look and don't touch. ;)
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2006-10-05 18:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you care a lot for your boyfriend and maybe at one time, you were 'in' love with him, but maybe not so much anymore.
It's natural to be attracted to other people even if you are in love and in a relationship with someone. If you start thinking you'd like to act on that attraction or you develop feelings beyond attraction, then you need to evaluate your relationship with the BF.
Also, consider your age - if you are young, don't rush anything. There is plenty of time to be in love and maybe you are starting to realize that. If that's the case and you want to date other people, tell your boyfriend as honestly and painlessly as you can...then move on. How he handles your decision is not your issue. So if you do this - do it and move on.
If you ultimately decide this 'like' you have for another person is just genuine like of another person and not romantic in any way, why not be friends?
Whatever the case, conduct yourself in a respectful and honest manner and you can't go wrong - with either guy.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 18:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I went through the same thing. I just couldn't find out what I wanted so what I did is just got some space between me and my boyfriend just to myself to see what I really want, I say sujest you do the same, it's not good be in a relationship and don't know what you want it will hurt him alot so do what your heart says. Make sure you doing the right thing and good luck in your decision.
2006-10-05 18:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like another person and yet you say that you love another, dosn't mean you could just remain friends with the person you like. I'd keep my distance from the person I like because I want to stay in love with ther person I love. But if you think the guy you like could be a person you can love then I'd think about the person I love. Dose the person you love deserve another woman that isn't you? Dose he deserve to have a chance to look at other woman other than you? Don't love another and yet keep it a secrete. It'll eat you up inside. and it wouldn't be fare to the one you love.
2006-10-05 19:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo need to tell yur bf if you do not love him like you thought you did. Please do not keep letting on that you love him when you do not it is not rite to let him think some is true when it is not.Be a woman and face the true next time make sure that you love some one before you tell them that you do because saying i love you and not meaning it hurts people more thatn not ever hreing it from you.Please do not stup low and cheat on him
2006-10-05 18:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out who you love more.
If you like the other guy more than you really don't love the person you are going out with
2006-10-05 18:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by babybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cuz u like someone else don't mean you don't love ur bf. It means that you're close to losing both though.
2006-10-05 18:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by HK3 Soul Smash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to like lots of people, even when in love with someone! just because we like someone doesn't mean we have to dump everyone else. be cool and have lots of friends.
2006-10-05 18:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by mala maker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young so have at it do them both. Don't get caught and don't tell either one unless you just want to hurt them. Or you decide on one over the other. Have fun.
2006-10-05 18:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋