recently, i talked to my girlfriend on messenger... we chat everyday.. then one day, there was a girl (on a new yahoo id) that sends me messages and wants me to be her boyfriend. she said she got my id from a close friend of mine...
the fact is, I know it's my girlfriend that is trying to test me of how strong my love for her is.... but she doesnt know that I know...
seems to be funny but i think it's not... why do girls do this? she told me she trust me so much... then why do something like this?
2006-10-05 11:36:36 · 16 answers · asked by one-of-a-kind 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for the answers... maybe i'd confront her tomorrow... btw, she means so much to me. I'd never hurt her...
and oh, she doesnt know my yahoo answers account...
2006-10-05 11:50:29 · update #1
Well, you don't understand our logic. You see, she does trust you! That is, until you do something that would make her think otherwise... I know it's hard to understand why, but that's the way our brain works, so try! She trusts you, but she MUST, she NEED to test you... Today, I mean in this world where lies are everywhere, words are almost always empty . Hey, maybe she got hurt for believing in someone who didn't deserve that! Maybe she got burned SO many times by the closest people she knows (best friends, parents, boyfriends), and she's just being careful this time... Don't consider this as a personal attack on your moral, i think that she's just trying to protect her heart from pain...
Now, if you really don't want to harm her feelings in future, If you are honest to her, take advantage of this situation. Make her realize that she can put her trust in you and herself completely into this relationship. Attack this phony girl BAD, I mean, spice it up a lot! And NEVER tell your girl that you know about this little fraud she's trying to pull. Believe me, she will never test your trust again!
PS If she, in any case, does, then you should question her sanity...
2006-10-05 11:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Looda_Plavusha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows you're on yahoo, then she might know about this question. You don't know what she knows, because she seems sneaky. Watch out. They do it to make sure they can trust you when an opportunity arrives. She may pretend and then again she may not. Then she'll know there is another girl chatting with you, if she looks on yahoo answers. Just be careful with what you say.
2006-10-05 11:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pssh this? I would seriously rethink about "trust" between me and my girl if this happens. Obviously she is feeling insecure. You know how they say, they trust you all there life. Don't be fooled, they gotta prove it. Situation like this, is a strong sense that she does not trust you at all. Testing? I had this situation many times. I would make them tell me honestly if they trust me or not. Those who don't do that, is the ones you can trust. Those who do that is just uncertain with you. If I were you, I wouldn't trust her at all either, I rather be cautious about everything she say or do.
2006-10-05 12:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, cuz shes testing you. Id put the other ID user (her) on ignore....and then she'll see that she CAN trust you.
The girls that do this are a little insecure. I did it once. I put a note on my hubbys truck. He never mentioned it, then I asked him about the note later, (while I was laughing)....I couldnt help it, and he said he ripped it up. I believe him, cuz he loves me BAD....lol
2006-10-05 11:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its reassuring, i too use to do that. Now a days its so hard to find a decent honest, trustworthy man so we're very cautious when it comes to men. It may not be her either, could be one of her friends, that's how we use to go about it. Play along, (keeping interested in your gf that is) and you'll reap the rewards.
2006-10-05 11:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, your girlfriend is feeling insecure. Reassure her. She does need to know though that entrapment is not a wise way to build a relationship.
2006-10-05 11:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it to the hilt... treat her like she is hot and then when your girl gets upset ask her what she is talking about? when she says the girl that is on the web you say I sure do enjoy talkin to you even though you do not know that i know that it is you... then if she gets mad and it is really not her.. then go for the other girl...
oh yeah one other thing... tell her to grow up... anyone will cheat or screw up if given the right scenario... unless she is 15 then that is what you get for dating children...
2006-10-05 11:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you really want to be with her...email the "other" person back and say that you allready have a girlfriend. She is just testing you and may have trust issues...you need to reassure her and be faithful if you do love her...
2006-10-05 11:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she trusts you but to an extent. so many men lie online and offline too. she may just feel she needs to check herself. she is going about it in a funny way but its her way lol. maybe you should tell her that you think it is her, when she is not in character.
i think after time she will trust you fully after she feels that you have proven yourself. some women it takes longer and more trials.
2006-10-05 11:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by sweetestnectar25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to see if you will cheat on her. It would make me uncomfortable if the guy I dated was that insecure. Find another girl that doesn't play games with you.
2006-10-05 11:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋