People say I have my whole life ahead of me, which is true. I have a lot of life to live. I have the rest of eight grade, then high school, and then college. But right now, it doesn't look that way from my point of view. I don't think I'm depressed. When I'm all alone with no one to bother me, I'm really happy. But now I'm sick. I've missed over a month of school and no one can tell me what's wrong with me. My step dad just starts yelling at me over stupid stuff. And since I've missed a lot of school, I think I might be failing a lot of my classes. I'm frusterated that I've missed so much school and when my step dad yells at me, I just want to die. Does this sound like depression to you? If it does, what can I do about it?
2006-10-05 11:35:06 · 13 answers · asked by Aliza E 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It could be depression, talk to your Mom about getting some help
2006-10-05 11:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of not really...
I had a similar experience without a step dad to make it worse.
After I was involved a car accident one summer while I was in highschool I got hurt more than a little than you want to be (I don't want to go into details). They had me in rehab, didn't know if I would walk again, etc. I actually thought I was dead, you do not want to die. I was alone all day, just me & the family pets.
I missed the first 9 weeks of school. It was actually recommended that I just wait until the next year to start school again. My parents and people thought that would be very traumatic since I would be stuck with a whole new group so I kept going. It sucked.
I was depressed but didn't want the medication for that since I knew what was depressing me. Had to step up.
I wasn't in a wheelchair or anything so if you didn't know about the accident you had no idea. My injuries did not leave any scars you can see. Studied my *** off for these classes... BUT they had to give me multiple choice tests, doctor's orders. Might have been enforced by laws for all I know. Still difficult but much easier than it would have been if it were always essay tests. They sat people on my side & I with all my teachers and told them that they had to provide me with multiple choice tests. Well except for calculus. These were excused absences we are talking about here.
Yell back at your dad. Don't lose your confidence in front of him.
Try to get some of your classwork sent home and get it done there so you keep up, maybe get him to shutup.
He probably has something wrong so he takes it out where he can. You are a sitting duck for him. Your mom know he yells at you? Your mom knows that really bothers you when he does this?
Take control of him acting like an asshole. He drink a lot or something? He could just hate his job.
If you do not know why you missed 30 days then demand to know because it is you we are the topic here.
2006-10-05 19:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by Nick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you are most likely suffering from depression. You are probably very overwhelmed too. I suggest that you start putting back the pieces into your life.
I know and understand that you are sick, but you should've asked someone to bring home your homework or ask you dad to go to school and get the lesson from a teacher and homework too. Part of growing up is learning how to be responsible.
Also, if you don't know what is wrong with you, then maybe you should see a doctor.(As in sick with an illness)
If you are not sick as in illness, I suggest that you go back to school, and finish all of the assignments given out. Also, you step dad yells at you because he cares about you, not because he feels like it. The parents who yell at you, show that they care about you and your education. They want you to go far with your life.
What you can do about this is seek professional help.
All I can tell you that is life gives you many chances, don't throw them away. Its like they use to say, "if you fall, get back up and try again"
Feeling suicide is very common in people, but just remember that life is the most precious thing in the whole world, take care of it wisely...
I hope everything goes well for you!
2006-10-05 18:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Y!User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the term depression can cover a lot of different symptoms. Actual clinical depression has to last for a while and usually means nothing in life makes you happy and you don't enjoy things anymore. It is normal to get sad and feel down about things like being sick and missing school and your friends, and feeling like you don't have control of what's going on. Maybe you could talk to your mom about how your step-dad is treating you...maybe he's also upset about the situation and doesn't know how to deal with it and he takes it out on you. If your mom doesn't know how to help the situation try a church couselor or a regular counselor to help you to make sure that you don't end up with major depression.
2006-10-05 18:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by beckerton12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only in eigth grade, some people are forty and they are still changing jobs. Try to catch up in school and ignore the yelling. Once you've got some stuff in school together you'll feel a lot better. Also go to the school psychologist/guidance counselor if you can between classes, after school, the morning whenever you can.
2006-10-05 18:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going through alot....alot of Sh*t for that matter. I never handled that much problems when I was in the eighth grade and you seem very smart. Do you think alternative school (home school or s.t.e.p.s has room for you?) it's like an adult education program. If you missed half the school year, you can make it up during the summer. If you're terminally ill, just have fun, we are all terminally ill in a sense anyway.
2006-10-05 18:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its happened to a Friend of myn, but he tried to get his graded back but his dad didn't yell at him, your step dad must be yelling at you for some reason if not i would never pay attention to him never forgive ignore him in every possible way until he feels bad ( its called revenge) anyway its starting to show depression, because i went through a stage of depression when i was a little younger and the thing that helped me was try to turn bad things into positive things as hard as it may be it helps
2006-10-05 20:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Surfer_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was 16 and I resorted to drugs to hide the problem. My parents finally took me to a professional and got me some help. I was depressed and didnt realize it and neither did my parents. Dont resot to drugs and PLEASE dont even think of hurting yourself. I was there too and I got help and I am now 37 and happy as I can be. I really hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-05 18:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Esther L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Missing school over a month, it's not a stupid thing! yes, sounds like depression. But what's causing it? Why is you'r selfesteem why so low? But you say say: I might be failling my classes, for not going to school!!
2006-10-05 18:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off, tell ur step dad to shove it up his a**....and about your schooling...school will always be there so u always have a chance to catch up....your sick, its not like your just purposely not going to school, dont worry about your future right now, spend your time trying to heal, and then when you heal, you will have tthe strength to deal whats in front of you. if you do have depression, tell your doctor about it and dont let him/her just brush it to the side.
2006-10-05 18:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋