A Year and a half ago my son was born, then three months later i found out he wasnt mine. but i was already attached to my son so i staied. for a min his Bio-father was trying to come around but not for long. then me and my Baby Mamma (BM) broke up. but i was still there for my son. we still messed around tho. so when we finnally got back together we found out that she was pregnate. She told me that she was talkin to someone and it could be his.ok soo like a couple days later the chick i was talkin to said she think she could be pregnate. She took a pregnacy test and found out she wasn't. i went to my BM and told her That my ladie friend could be pregnate to see how she would respond. SHE FLIPPED. she said that that was who i needed to be with then and said that if the baby inside of her was not mine she was going to be with the other guy. then i told her that she isnt preg. and said i dont want nothing to do with her. but she cryed so i wouldnt leave her son. Would i be wrong.
2006-10-05 11:30:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She's playing mind games man. Who could stand to stay with that? First your son's yours, then he's not. Then this baby on the way could be yours, maybe not.
I don't know how you could stand it.
I don't think it is wrong if you leave. She's obviously not that into loving you if she's willing to just be with the other guy based on if he's the kids father or not.
I know you are attached to her son, but ultimately he's isn't your responsibility. Perhaps you should stay apart until you know if the baby is yours or not. Because if you're in the relationship and being loving together, and the baby isn't yours once again, it could spell doom.
Think of the future. Splitting would be worse down the road when the babies won't be babies anymore, but young boys who have been calling you daddy.
The ball's in your court. It's a hard decision. One I don't think you'll get an answer to here.....good luck anyhow....
2006-10-05 11:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's hard when a child is involved. I wouldn't totally leave. It sounds like you just had a big fight. I would sit down with her and tell her she is being hypocritical because she slept with someone else and is preg again and it may not be yours AGAIN. Remind her that the little boy you call your own biologically belongs to some other guy. If she is going to be that immature and selfish then perhaps you're better off without her. As far as the baby..that's a tough call. I mean you have to do what you think is right concering that baby. Good luck with this.
2006-10-05 18:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are currently dating I wouldnt say that it would be wrong to leave her. But even though he is not your biological son, it would sort of be wrong to leave him. He is probably very attached to you and the only father he has ever known. Dont do that to the little. You may not like her but I'm sure you love him with all your heart, just as if he where your own.
2006-10-06 03:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not wrong but u r not right. if u love the first child even though he is not yours then u should hang around him for his sake. as far as the other two pregnancies r concerned i would definately get some blood work done before u get too invested. u might want one for the first child if u haven't had one yet. if she lied to start with, she could b lying about that too . sounds like u need to protect ueself against these women until u know what is what and it also sounds like u should keep ur pants on for awhile too. good luck
2006-10-05 18:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If everything you just said is true,... then it sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too.! You stayed with her and took care of a child that wasn't yours...... then she is preg with another baby.... possibly not yours..... and she has the nerve to talk crap when it might of been possible that you got someone else preg??? WHATEVER! No you wouldn't be wrong if you left!! Good luck
2006-10-05 19:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a condom and don't reproduce!! If you refer to people as Baby Mamas, you shouldn't be having children.
You will end up hurting the child being in and out of it's life. Either be a man and be there all the time or leave now.
2006-10-05 18:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by jerseymilo9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can still be there for the kids...but do you want the drama..seems like this hirl doesn't take care of herself...as far as having unprotected sex...she could have more than just a baby in her body...why is she having babies for guys she just met....thats a red flag my frind....she was mad because the other girl could have been with child..because she new then you wouldn't be there to help her with yet another mans baby...get some cojo's my friend...this is not the type of girl you need in your life...even she was still seeing you...she was sleeping around....wtf....this is the drama you want in your life...you can always do something with the kids...i guess the fathers wont...but you don't need to be mixed up with this girl....
2006-10-05 20:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your BM is stupid and your caught in her trap get the hell outta there before something else happens and she F's up your life. I know you love the kid but it aint yours and sooner or later she's gonna throw that in your face and you'll be sol.
2006-10-06 09:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by emma's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the 2 of you have 2 many problems. If you love the kid I would say be around for him, but you and his mom need to call it quits for good, so you can quit messing with each other.
2006-10-05 18:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurllexi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for the babies that are born amidst all this drama. Making babies isn't a joke and all of this sounds irresponsible to me.
2006-10-05 18:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋