My Grandmother's health has been declining. We hate the thought of putting her in an assisted care facility. We have been taking care of her at her home, splitting the time up among family members. It is getting to the point where we are having trouble giving her the care she needs. She has chronic health problems that have her in, and out of hospitals at least once every other week. How do know it is time to think about a rest home? Many years ago, they had to put my Grandfather in a rest home, and it just killed me. I was younger then, I swore that I wouuld never do that to a family member. It is just at the point now where we don't know what to do. If you had to make this dicision, I would like to hear how you were able to deal with it. Thanks.
2006-10-05 11:25:30 · 9 answers · asked by jam961 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was in the same situation a couple of years ago. All you have to do is talk to her doctor or social worker in the hospital. They got me 24hrs home attendant. They washed her cloths,feed her, clothed her took her to doctor's appointments.They did just about everything,all I had to do was make my present known. I made sure they didn't take advantage of her,the people who took care of her where very good people. Make sure you pay her bills and leave money in the house for them to take care of her with.If you need help with this please email me at godmoneybusiness@yahoo.com. I live in New York.
2006-10-05 12:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe look into having an in-home nurse come to care for your Grandmother. Would it be just as expensive as having her put in a home? I'm sure you could get around the clock care that way, or even have them come in for the day hours and take turns at nite.
Good luck
2006-10-05 20:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by nnett64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are no longer able to give her the nutrition she needs, when you are no longer able to keep her clean, if she is bedridden, no longer able to turn her every two hours, when your family and you are at your wits end, it may be time to seek professional help. Talk to your grandmother's doctor. See if he can get home health aids and physical therapists to visit your home. Talk to him about respite care. Find out how long, in his opinion she has left. Hospice care could be an option if she has less than six months. Talk to social workers. They are trained to assist families like yours. And if you do end up having to hand her over to a nursing facility, please don't feel guilty about this. Especially if it is about the kind of quality care she will receive. There are guide books that your social worker can give you with nursing facilities listed. Take the time to visit several of these and look for cleanliness and see if the residents look happy or gloomy there. Don't fall for the overly friendly and fake tour guides but go for the worn out and tired administrators. ;) Uhmmm... and alot of cities also have nursing homes that are located in real houses in neighborhoods and these can be wonderful places to leave her. Don't forget to go visit her lots, spend time with her, leave pictures on the walls of your family for her to look at, and also leave a poster up with all her likes and dislikes for the nurses, and also if she has certain pains in certain locations. When a variety of people care for her, this can be a life saver.
2006-10-05 18:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by BookGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in this same situation with my grandfather. He had broken his hip and my family was taking turns caring for him at his home. I only wish we had put him in a nursing home, for his own safety and well being. I know it is hard but you must think about what is best for them. Unless your entire family are certified nurses, a assisted home would be best in my opinion. And just because you put someone in a nursing home, it doesnt mean you cant visit them frequently. I hope i have helped even a little.
2006-10-05 18:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cool_High_Schooler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is going to be best for your Grandmother. If she needs to be in a hospital for around the clock care then that is what you should do.
2006-10-05 18:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about having a in home nurse stay with her in her home?
Unfortunetly it's hard when your family member gets old and sickly.. Do the best that you can and it will all work out!
2006-10-05 18:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by truckmama_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stop thinking of how everything is affecting you and start thinking only of what is best for your grandmother. when you do this there will be no room in your mind for doubts. a mind full of love always acts in the best way possible.
2006-10-05 18:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by mala maker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you having trouble providing the proper care for your grandmother wouldnt you want her to get it? assisted living isnt a bad thing. it just lets them get waht they need to keep going.
2006-10-05 18:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind
2006-10-05 18:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋