Does spanking your child really work?

Answer 1

Every kid I know who wasn't spanked is a brat, and every one that I know who was (but not beaten) is a decent, well-behaved human now. It is very important that the spankings have a clear reason though, or it will just be taken as random violence to be passed on to others as they get older. As a punishment though, it seems to work.

Answer 2

Let's be real. Some children need a spanking every now and then. Most often when my son is misbehaving I make him sit down for a while. But there are times when he gets a swat on the behind. I always explain to him why he's getting a spanking. The Bilbe says spare the rod and spoil the child. TIme outs and "naughty seats" work for some children but not all. Do what's most effective when it comes to your child. It's not about making the child afraid of you. It's about teaching them right from wrong and creating in them the desire to want to do the right thing.

Answer 3

yes spanking works not beating mind you
most disipline works if you are constant but here is a good example why i prefer spanking. 1. it is swift 2. they get the point right then . Say you are walking through the grocery store parking lot with a bag of groceries in one hand and your 3 year old holding the other. your bag breaks and you let go of your childs hand for half a second and he runs from you. You say now you are going to have to go to time out when we get home and home is about 30 min to and hour away because you have more errands to run. Now do you think your child will learn much from this he'll probly forget why he is being punished. On the other hand lets say he runs then you catch him before being squashed by a care you calmly walk him to the car say don't you ever run in the parking lot again and you spank his little bottom just hard enough that he will remember it He will more than likely never do it again. I think spankings are definately in order in a case like this. I feel that a child needs to stop what he is doing upon the first request because that could be what saves his life. you yell out stop or no in a dangerous situation you don't have time to expain why or argue and the best way to accomplish this is by spanking. How to spank 101 1. try not to use your hands hands are for hugging and holding the best thing is to carry a little wooden paint stiring stick or a small limb.2. use enough force to cause discomfort but not leave a bruise or welpt there is no excuse for this. 3. before spanking if it is a situation that gives you time tell the child why you are spanking like if the rule is no jumping on the bed and he knows this you say you know the rule about jumping on the bed so now you will get a spanking so you will remember this next time you decide to jump on the bed.4. do not spank your kid when you are angry. lets say you are watching your favorite t.v. show and you hear him jumping on the bed and you say stop jumping 2min later he's jumping again and you say stop jumping or i will spank you 2 min go by and he is jumping again you say i really mean it i will come in there and spank you. 2min go by and he's jumping. by now you are hopping mad and you storm in there and bust his rear end. your child has just learned how to press you buttons and just how many times it takes for you to mean what you say plus you probly would spank him harder than you meant to because you are mad. Say the next day your child decides to run in the parking lot because he knows he'll get away with it at least three times before you do any thing about it then you could have a fatal problem cause it only takes once for you kid to get run over.

Answer 4

Make the child explain what they did wrong first. If they cant explain it, then explain it to them. If they know, then yes spank them. They will respect you more for treating them respect and teaching them to be proper. But they will also try to expand thier boundaries occassionally too. And by spanking I dont mean using a clothes hanger or a curtain rod. I mean hand on the bottom once or twice. Once they are done, ask them what they did wrong, and what will happen next time they do the same again.

Answer 5

I am a firm believer of spanking. All kids are different though. I have two kids, a boy and a girl. Spanking works on my son, but I havent found anything to work on my daughter. Might also have something to do with age.

Answer 6

no it doesnt work, especially because most parents do it when they are angry so the child perceives it as an act of anger and not punishment for what they did. all it does is teaches them to hit people when they dont like what they are doing, and there are many parents that will deny this but if you look at them, they were probably spanked and what do they do now? they spank thier child. there are much better ways to discipline a child.

Answer 7

Depends on the child. It work on me as a child but after a while, it stopped. Punishments worked most of the time but after being threatened to be sent away to boot camp, I straightened up quick.

Do what works for the child because everybody is different.

Answer 8

I agree that spanking works. It worked on me too and I too think that children who are spanked are more well-behaved. Just remember to spank to discipline, not out of anger. So try to remain calm when you have to spank your child, and try to explain why they were spanked. Hope this is helpful

Answer 9

Some children remember spanking messages more than nurturing ones. They will remember and be most influenced by the 1 hit than the 100 hugs. Hitting just devalues a child. Children need to predict the outcome in order to behave good in the future. Parents should never spank because using fear and pain is the wrong way to go about it.
Spanking is a form of violence that teaches children that inflicting fear and pain on others is a way to control their behavior. Parents who spank are out of control and are not disciplined parents. It just teaches children how to hit, how to be sneaky, how to fear, how to be ashamed and how to take anger out on others. All degrees of spanking- light, moderate, occasional, rarely, always- give children the wrong kind of attention. You want your child to follow rules because they are right and good, not to avoid punishment because they are scared and become sneaky. When parents spank, they stop their children at the lowest level of moral development. So all the idiots that recommend to spank are eroding their childs ability to be empathetic. When you react with anger to childrens' behavior, we teach them to act without considering another persons' feelings-another consequence we need to avoid. Then when your child doesn't have empathy, it is impossible for them to learn to share, play well with others, avoid angry and violent actions, and take responsibility for their actions. I have children and am studying early childhood development in college.

Answer 10

I really think it depends on the child. Some children are very sensitive by nature and spanking them really hurts their feelings. Some children it doesn't faze them. I am all for tough love, but I have found spanking doesn't really accomplish anything. Also, violence begets violence.