Okay... can someone teach me how to go up to a random cute guy & talk to him with confidence, and not worry about whether he is attracted to me or not?
Here's my problem: On *some* days I think I'm pretty, but I never know if guys think so too. And beauty is subjective, so you never know what others are thinking. I find it's easier for me to be confident if I feel like a guy is thinking I'm pretty... but sometimes I don't feel that they do. I'm not one of those definitely-gorgeous-at- all-times girls, and i'm not flat out ugly. So it's hard to know what other people see...
Yes, I know I'm going to get a bunch of answers that say "be yourself" and "go with your personality" and all that. Well, I do have a great personality, and I know it. But what I'm thinking about right now is the beauty part, b/c that's important too.
Also, what are some appropriate or inappropriate places to do this?
Thank you!
2006-10-05 10:52:41 · 14 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Read some of the books on the link I attached here.
All you need is some confidence and practice. You have nothing to loose by asking or talking to someone.
Just do this. For the next five days, just walk up to guys your age and introduce yourself to them, then after that (practice) you will be ready to talk to the guy you like most. All the others are just so you will get rid of the nerviousness, that you have now.
2006-10-05 10:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...I get it. What you need to do, if you're going to go up to a random cute guy, is to concentrate on him, not yourself. Ask him about something he is doing, something you know he enjoys, something of interest to him - you are, after all, trying to find out whether you would actually be attracted to this guy. By keeping the focus and interest on him, that will help you not be worried about your looks (which I'm sure are MUCH better than average).
Focusingly,
RT
2006-10-05 18:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by RT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you decide that you love yourself, which is what it sounds like you are grappling with, you can always see at least some beauty in yourself when you look in the mirror. And remember if a guy only likes or does not like you because of your looks, you are really shortchanging yourself and deserve better ESPECIALLY if you have a great personality.
2006-10-05 17:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, all you have to do is when you pass by him just say "hi, how's going". if he shows sign of attraction, he'll reply back with something more than just a passive statement. hmmm.. but you said that your inner beauty doesnot match your outer. that could be a problem in the long run. to get the right type of guys, you need to have a great inner beauty as well.
2006-10-05 18:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Outer beauty is fine but inter-beauty puts a glow on your face. Any place that is a nice place were there are other people around would be OK to speak to a guy.
2006-10-05 17:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Low cut tops loads of lip gloss and licking of glasses fingers any food. At the first opportunity give great head and remember, he will not know what you look like if he is spending the night looking at the top of your head
2006-10-05 17:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not going to tell you to be yourself...i am going to advise you to practise being as self aware as you can be...know your good points and know your failings and accept yourself for who you are and what you look like. Only then can you have inner confidence,with inner confidence comes outer confidence and thats what will make all your wonderful traits and beauty shine through and wow anyone you want to wow...know your strengths and weaknesses and learn to love them all...go forth and conquer...good luck, you shouldnt need it though,lol...;0)
2006-10-05 17:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter what anyone else thinks? Go up to them and talk to them. If they are cool then they will be willing to talk to you back. It really is that simple. If they are worried about how you look then they are superficial and well you really don't want to associate with them anyway.
2006-10-05 18:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act real sexy and flirt. Make sure that what you're wearing is hot! The mall,a party, the movies, any place where you're social. Inappropriate places, i don't think there're any.
2006-10-05 18:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, some guys don't only care about the beauty and you don't have to be sure that guys go only after the pretty ones. no they don't.
2006-10-05 17:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋