Why do a lot of stay at home moms get all crazy on working mothers?

Question

I have noticed a lot of people on here who are stay at home mothers like to talk trash about working mothers.

I have read this on here:

Why are you paying someone else to raise your child?

God says that a mother's place is at home raising her children! (Bible Thumpers)

Why doesn't your husband get two jobs so you can stay home?

You shouldn't have children if you plan to put them in daycare!

Is this crazy to anyone else? Just because you are staying home doesn't mean you are doing your child a favor! You can be sitting at home ignoring your kid or yelling at your kid. Same goes for working moms, just because you work doesn't mean you are not raising your child.

Why can't SAHM back off? Not everyone is so lucky to afford to live on one income alone. I make a lot of money, but I also live in California and own a home so my wife will have to work part-time. I could sell my home and live in a shack and then my wife can stay home 24/7 but what good is that?

Answer 1

Crazy on them? not me, I feel sad that there children that can't share the day with the ones they love, and are stuck in day care.

Answer 2

I'm a stay at home mom, and I never talk 'smack' about working moms. Before we had children, I had a great job and made a great salary...but I chose to stay at home with my children. It has been a tremendous sacrifice, financially.

I don't think that I'm a better mom than those who work. I believe I'm the best mom I can be for my children and that's what is important. I personally think working moms have the best of both worlds. They have their kids and a life. I don't always feel like I have my own life. My every minute revolves around my kids. At least working moms can go to the bathroom without two kids following them.

As long as every woman is doing the best she can as a mom, that's really all that matters. God does not call every woman to stay at home. Proverbs 31:10 - 28 says that the woman raises her children, keeps her house, works, and helps financially in the house. So I don't think that God says women HAVE to do nothing else.

Answer 3

I am a stay at home mom and so do not get crazy on mothers who work. For anyone who judges otherwise, they obviously have never had to worry about finances. I feel blessed that I am able to be home with our children but there are also days that I am envious of women who get to go to work. Most people now a days have no choice but to have two incomes. How are we to tell anyone that they should not have a child because of this. Not many people would have children if that were the case.

Answer 4

Luck has nothing to do with being able to stay at home with your kids.It's a choice like the choice to have or not have kids and when...We've made lifestyle choices to be able to do it but I wouldn't reccomend it for everyone.I do without a lot of things to be able to stay home. I'm not saying that to appear noble or anything it's just that for us it's an important choice to have one of us be home for our kids.I would never be able to afford to live in CA, I mean the cost of living there versus income earned would mean that it would be difficult to get by on one income.We can barely afford to do it here in FL although we found it much easier to stay home in the midwest because it's much more affordable than either the west or east coast.I'm sorry that people have said mean things to you because your wife needs to work. Sometimes it's just because so many of us stay at home moms hear the same **** over and over from people who are judging us for staying home.Like if I wanted anyones opinion I'd ask them... If I hear one more person ask me this I'll pop them one."What do you do all day?" and the ever popular "It must be nice to get to stay home all day" meanwhile they're living beyond their means in an expensive home , driving a new SUV and getting $150 highlights every month while sucking down a $6 dollar frappucino from Starbucks.I don't judge them because I know they're doing what they feel they have to do, and thats ok.Same goes for me. You brought up some valid points in that people need to quit judging others lifestyles.There is no one right way to raise a family and everyone has to do what works for them.Hey if you and your wife are happy with your choices then that's the only thing that matters. If you notice that your kids aren't doing very well or that your wife is burned out or overly stressed from having to work & raise a family then I'm sure you both will talk about it and decide how you want to handle it.It's all about making choices and isn't good when we live in a country that allows us the opportunity to do just that.

Answer 5

I know what you mean, I'm expecting my 1st and I work full time, will have a maternity leave (only 84 days where I live) and then go back to work full time, not because I dont care about my baby girl but because I need to work in order to afford all my house/life/baby's expenses. And I think it would be really innapropiate and selfish to ask my husband to get 2 jobs so that I can stay home. It's both our responsibility....I do wish I had more time on maternity leave, but there's nothing I can do about it...unless I win the lotto LOL then I could saty home forever

Answer 6

AMEN!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! In only my wildest dreams could I be a stay at home mom. I also live in California too and unless you make 200 grand a year, there is NO WAY I could stay home to raise my daughter. I even feel guilty because of the fact that I can't, I feel like I miss out on a lot of things. I love her and I have to provide for her, so that means I have to come to work everyday, sick or not and earn my money.

Answer 7

I am a stay at home mother... I see a lot of mothers who put down us who don't work either. Everyone has their own life and and does what they have to do. What is good for one family may or may not be good for another. Instead maybe people should cut the nasty comments on both ways.

Answer 8

Working women are the best. Shoot, I was working when I was 7 months pregnant, But at the same time, stay at home moms are doing a GODLY thing. But one thing for sure is you should just be the best mom you could be. And in my case that is going to work

Answer 9

WOW, that was a harsh answer someone wrote! I think both jobs are equally important and it is sometimes not a choice for moms to work...some have to in order to support their families, that doesn't mean they shouldn't have children. Each family makes a decision based on what is best for them.

Answer 10

I agree with you...there are different situations for different people. My son goes to a family daycare 3 days a week...he absolutely loves it...and spends 2 days a week with Grandma and Grandpa. I find that a little daycare is good...its like school...it teaches them to socialize. I don't understand why some cast their opinions on others...MY son is a very happy well adjusted child.

Answer 11

I think that really goes both ways on here-

That's how catty women are.

I've been on both sides and there are pros and cons to each.

I'm a sahm now and would LOVE to be able to get out alone sometimes and get a break BUT I'd hate to have my kid in daycare and only see them long enough to feed them, bathe them and get them in bed....