How long is too long to wait before wanting to see someone you like again? I had plans last Sat with a guy that likes me (I like him too) but he totally blew them off at the last min for work..over TEXT MESSAGE! He called the next day and left a nice message, but I called him back and he didn't answer. He never called me back either. I saw him on Monday at out gym and he came right up to me telling me that he'd be around in the next couple days..he's been slammed with work and he has to go out of twn next week for training. But I haven't heard from him and it's thursday! I think I got blown off, and rudely, too. I don't know how to act around him now when I see him at the gym cause the truth is, I'm kinda pissed! How freakin hard is it to pick up a phone and cancel plans? I know he's single, he's a little shy and reserved, maybe he IS slammed with work...He REALLY seemed to like me and I'm totally clueless now. He was the one who kept suggesting we hang out..WTF?
2006-10-05 10:47:19 · 11 answers · asked by trickyandmysterious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say give him some time, to get past the busy time at work. You haven't been dating long at all, so don't be too pushy... go do things on your own and with friends in the meantime. I also suggest talking to him nicely about feeling a little blown off, and see what he says. If he seems like a nice guy, he probably is... and worth your time and patience perhaps!
2006-10-05 10:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T give dude the satisfaction of knowing you are pissed off about it.....act too busy to notice! Next time he tries to make plans with you... wait till the last minute and then cancel in an e-mail...or have a friend call for you! let him have a taste of his own medicine...its the best cure!
something doesn't sound right... which usually means its not if you choose to see this guy again, proceed w/ caution
2006-10-05 10:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by kimandchris2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly the same thing happened to me with a guy I got off with one time on a night out (my then housemate's birthday!) He said he'd call me sometime. He texted me the next day. Admittedly, it took me four days to reply. The next Friday I texted him on the off chance he was out, and said he was at this particular bar. I went and he was. He then said he and his friends were going to another bar. I followed and he wasn't there, and I ended up getting off with one of his equally unsuitable friends, a romance which only lasted a week.
Moral of the story is; yes it is hurtful when you get blown off like this. Give it one more go if you like, but the best thing to do is forget it and move on. I did, and now I'm with a fantastic guy! :)
Don't worry, most stories have a happy ending. :)
2006-10-05 10:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see him, just act normal like you did before. Say hi & make small talk & that's it. Don't suggest any plans w/ him. He was rude & you can't count on him, don't sit around waiting for him. My first thought is that he's already in a relationship & he's a cheater. He's too sketchy. Set your eyes on someone else, cuz right now you're just getting the run around & are going no where w/ this one.
2006-10-05 10:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and this man said...."i don't have time for you". hey..he was honest. look...there is no such thing as too busy. EVER!
i dated a guy that did this to me for a year. boy was i stupid. then one day, he said he was coming over, he never did. i refused to call him to get an explanation. i never heard from him again.
last year when i was just dating, my man worked 7 days a week 14 hour days. you know what he did? he had me move in. this way he could at least spend the nights with me at all times. then he cut down his working hours to 6 days a week and 12 hour days. and his days off.....are devoted entirely to me. he even asked me to cut my hours on his day off so we could have a whole day together.
when a guy wants to spend time with you....he will make time.
2006-10-05 10:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, honey, sounds like the usual story - you really like him, but he doesn't feel the same. He's not that into you and his "work" probably means "working it."
You're right to be pissed - he was rude to blow you off. Forget about him, and ignore him from now on.
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2006-10-05 10:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by d d 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good try "d d"...we all know that you are by the stupid answer you gave...give it up already...ok now to your answer...I think you should just let it go...definately do your own thing, stop waiting around for him to call you.
2006-10-05 10:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by pattysez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is definitely shy. If I was your bf I would NEVER blow you off. If this continues you need to dump him.
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2006-10-05 10:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want to accept it but he's just not that into you.
2006-10-05 10:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋