I have been dating this wonderful woman for about three weeks now. I can't believe how much I love her even in this very short time. When we make love it is incredible, at least it was. I was beginning to get concerned that she was faking it so I asked her if there was anything I could do to make it better for her. She confessed to me that when she orgasms she loses bladder control. Quite frankly I don't care, I just want to please her and make her happy, but she seems unable to relax enough to go ahead and let herself have an orgasm for fear she will wet herself or me. Please do not post any unkind remarks. I really just want to know if anyone has any suggestions for helping her trust me enough to know I won't freak out over this.
2006-10-05 10:36:31 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am very touched by your level of maturity and grace on this whole matter.Many men would have run away...run away!! But you care enough about her to help her get over this hard and I am sure embarrassing situation.I think and feel that she must also feel your caring and trust and love for her that you could broach this subject with her and work it out together. I know I hope I find a man as caring as you in a way someday.You are so honest and caring even about taboo subjects!
2006-10-05 15:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by angelofdreams19881 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three weeks is a very short period of time to build trust. Give her time. If you really dig her the way you say then you would be more patient with her. Explore other ways to arouse her, maybe you will discover together by accident other ways that she can acheive organism. I would also suggest that she see a gyn about her urination during organism, that is not normal and she could have a medical problem that needs to be addressed. Take Care and enjoy, sex is just one expression of love.
2006-10-05 10:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by lizzy tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep assuring her that it's ok. You have to admit that 3 weeks is a little soon to feel so comfortable around someone that this wouldn't be an issue. Once you're together for a longer period of time she will be more at ease and able to let her guard down. Be patient and do whatever you can to make her feel at ease. Women sometimes have a hard time believing that men can accept our flaws. But time spent together will prove it. Good Luck.
2006-10-05 10:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) Is she SURE she's losing bladder control? Some women have very "wet" orgasms, to the point of appearing similar to male ejaculate.
(2) If she is, I'm sure she's not the only one. I've heard of other people who claimed that happened to them before. Maybe she can discuss it with her doctor to see if either one or two are possible, and if so, if there are any treatments or therapies.
(3) You may have to convince her you want to be her love toilet. =D
2006-10-05 10:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mister_Mister 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if she is truly losing control of her bladder or if she is having a female ejaculation ("squirting")... if she is that uncomfortable about it try making love to her in the shower... maybe she will feel better if she does not have to worry about 'wetting' anything... another is to put a plastic mattress cover on the bed under the sheets... there are many ways to work around this ....
2006-10-05 10:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think trust is developed over time. Falling in love and getting into bed in less than 21 days and expecting a level of sexual and emotional trust seems unreasonable.
Infatuation lasts about 90 days- see if you're still together by then and if things have improved. Good luck.
2006-10-05 10:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she sure it is lose of bladder control, it could just be female ejaculation. Let her know that it is perfectly normal and you will love/care about her no matter what. The only way she will orgasm is if she feels COMPLETELY comfortable.
2006-10-05 10:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by cheermb22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard a commercial about bladder control as soon as I can get more details I will get back to u, email me an we can talk more! All she might need is a simple visit to a doctor! But I will find out for you okay?
2006-10-05 10:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are doing great! Give it time, and she'll develop trust with you. She should see her ob/gyn, and maybe she/he'll have some suggestions or exercises for her to try. Just keep encouraging her to let go and relax, you don't mind the moisture! :o)
2006-10-05 10:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
within time i believe that she will get comfortable with you. i think that is all she will need is time, make her feel safe and beautiful keep doing what ever you are doing and eventually she will loosen up and be able to relax, it's a new realtionship, it takes a while for some women to be confident and comfortable, just hang in there and good luck!
2006-10-05 10:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Big D's Sexy Peach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋