Ok, the guy i like feels the same about me. However, he says he does'nt want us to be in a relationship. This is because i don't believe in sex before marriage and he says for him, sex has to be included but he doesn't wanna force me and have to deal with the guilt that comes along with it. Even though he says this, he still sing songs to me and flirts with me, that kinda stuff. This leaves me in a spot, cause i really don't know what to do. Give me your opinions and advices. Thanks!
2006-10-05 10:33:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs to play it straight with you as it's not fair on you. If he wants a relationship then he needs to respect your wishes, if not then he needs to be just 'friends' and has to stop flirting.
2006-10-05 10:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by silent_paws 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be a few things, maybe you are wrong in thinking he feels the same for you as you feel for him. Maybe he has the fear that once he makes a lifetime commitment that you will be a lousy sex partner, all men and most women will not want to buy a car they have never driven because it may end up a lemon. The last thing I can think of is that maybe he is gay and just likes singing and flirting with women, in that case your safe! My advice: give it up to him or find another gambler like yourself (don't get me wrong, waiting for marriage is a noble and honorable thing to do, but divorcing later because there is no sexual chemistry in the marriage really stinks)
2006-10-05 17:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage is a mistake in my opinion. If you give in to his desires, he will probably walk away and you may never see him again. If he does leave because you don't give in, then you are better off. Wouldn't you rather be with someone that respected you for who and what you are rather than just for your body? A relationship to be great and lasting has to be built on enjoying all those other things that don't require sex.
2006-10-05 17:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy always want sex. being kind and caring is how we guy show our love. I mean sex is not everything, but it is a different kind of care. Tell him that you don't want to have sex before marriage and hope that he understand that you two can kiss, hug, hold hands, walk on the beach, cooking, and etc. 90 percent of the man will understand. The remaining 10 percent will said yes now and get you in bed later. So you have to tell from your heart which guy is lying. You will know when they try to touch you.
hey, everything is about respect. So don't change for any guy.
2006-10-05 17:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw man... what a mess. He doesn't know what the heck he wants. He's as messed up as a soup sandwich. The only thing you can tell for true here is: he doesn't want a relationship. He may or may not want sex, he definitely wants a flirt-toy, but he is NOT wanting a relationship.
2006-10-05 17:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mister_Mister 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has his stance and you have your stance. Reasons why you choose to have sex or not to have sex pre marriage aren't just random issues - it comes from values that are the core of a person. He may sing and flirt with you but deep down, both of you have beliefs that cant be meshed.
2006-10-05 17:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is trying to get you to give in and have sex with him, just without forcing you to do it. He thinks if he is romantic enough and shows you enough attention you will give in. stick with your guns, and dont' even be around him anymore. Good luck.
P.S. most guys untill they are 29 or 30 (seriously) only care about sex
2006-10-05 17:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I belive that he's trying to get you to "give it up"... in a nice way. You should ultimately be with someone that will share the SAME values as you, not someone who's only worry is his own conscious. There should be no "grey" areas in a relationship, only black and white ones. (.)
2006-10-05 17:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by jonachi1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is indirectly trying to persuade u to have S e X. Either he's playing a game or plain dumb. Either way leave the guy, unless ur dumb
2006-10-05 17:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i applaud you-stick to your guns. he sounds juvenile to me-seems to me you would be a great candidate as a future wife.
nowadays most youngsters change sex partners as much as they change socks-instead of sex being an emotional and physical joining it becomes a physical act with out a meaning
2006-10-05 17:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by pdudenhefer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋