I'v been thinkin that he doesn't love me anymore?

Question

my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. everything was great at first but the past 6 months he doesn't want to spend as much time as he use to.. I ask him why he doesn't come out to my house anymore that much and he always says " I don't know" and I ask if there is anyone eles he likes, he tells me no and if there were then he wouldn't be with me.. I can't get the feeling out of my head that he may like someone eles or he's getting bored with me. all he wants to do is play online poker or his xbox. I am 24 years old and he's 27. I have to live with my dad at the moment due to some money problems.. I know he would never cheat on me. I trust him with all my heart. But I just feel like maybe he doesn't love me anymore like he says he does.. idk what I should do .. I don't want to loose him..

Answer 1

you guys have been together for Two years too long.

Make him chase you. When you start going to social gatherings
( museums, art gallery's, movies, dinner or lunch, ) don't always invite him. it shows that you independent, and can enjoy being by yourself. men hate that about women, it drives them insane.

play cat and mouse with him, if you lose the mouse, remember, your a hunter by nature.

Answer 2

He's 27 years old and he's not working too hard to play games all the time?? If you trust him as you said, why did you ask him if there was someone else? Do you really trust him or do you WANT to trust him? I learned a long time ago to trust my gut far more than what any man says. If I were you, I'd not count on the relationship (if there is one) to go anywhere except down the tube.

Answer 3

Sounds like he's experiencing what the vast majority of people experience early in a relationship, and that is the wearing off of infatuation. It has nothing to do with you, it's a biological thing that way too many people have no idea is going on.

We humans have, hard wired into our brains from millions of years of evolution, certain instinctual drivers that we have little to no control over. In order for our species to survive we have developed drivers that push us to eat, sleep, breathe and mate.

Basically, our brains take over and MAKE us do these things. If you try to stop breathing, your body will just shut down; you'll pass out and start breathing again. Ever been so hungry you said, "I could eat a horse?" Well, if food was withheld from you long enough you literally WOULD eat a horse. If you tried to stay awake for several days, your brain would eventually take over, shut your body down again and you'd sleep. A similar thing happens, all too frequently, when we meet someone who our brains consider to be a strong potential physical mate. When you meet this person your brain takes over and you become "crazy" about the other person, you can't think/work/eat/sleep without constantly thinking about them, your brain basically goes all Romeo and Juliet on you.

Ever had a relationship end, look back at some of the stuff that went on and then ask yourself something like, "how could I have missed THAT, how could I have been so Blind?" Well, the answer is your body's need to procreate in order to continue the survival of the species literally flooded your brain with chemicals that caused you to FEEL” in-love" and lowered your ability to make rational judgments about that person you were "in love" with. Now after your body/brain decides that you've been with this person long enough to mate, (it literally says 'OK we'd be pregnant by now if we were going to get pregnant....remember effective birth control is a modern invention and it takes a LONG time for evolution to occur in the brain, so the brain doesn’t consider birth control, it just thinks OK it's been enough time) it will stop flooding the brain with those chemicals and that "in love" FEELING goes away as does the clouded brain functioning. At this point a lot of people see the other person clearly for the first time. So you no longer "feel" in-love (which wasn't real in the first place, it was just your body playing a trick on you in order to get you comfortable enough with the other person to have sex with them and make a baby) and you begin to realize that the other person isn't "perfect" after all. It's at this point where we typically begin to think, "Oh! I guess I just picked wrong again, I don't feel the same about this person any more. I must not love them any more".

I don’t know if knowing this stuff can help you with your current situation, but hopefully it will help you not take his moving on so personally. Don’t worry about anything being wrong with you. His leaving is probably just human nature at work, as it has been for millions of years. Maybe you'll be able to clear your head and you'll see that he's not that perfect either.

Maybe next time, you’ll recognize what’s really going on and you’ll be able to see through the cloud of chemicals your brain releases when you meet the next “Mr Right.” Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Since you have more free time, use it on something to improve yourself-something you have been interested in, but didn't have time for. Some examples could be learning a foreign language, learning a skill you have admired, doing more with friends, volunteering (nursing homes and hospitals always need them). Bottom line, you are improving yourself and learning about your interests, skills and abilities. Who knows-you might find you have a talent for something you never thought about before. You might even meet someone you would have otherwise never known and experience a new friendship or even relationship. My best to you.

Answer 5

There is nothing you can do to prevent him from losing interest in you. The more you try to keep him focused, the more he will mind his own business. Just live your life as much as you can and spend time with other people. If you can't and just want to be with him, forget about it. He will walk. Don't know is not a very reliable answer.

Answer 6

well, it may work out or it may not.. either way your life will go on.. but the key thing to remember is not to push the issue too much, if you do you'll just frustrate him and push him away.. also, some research has linked excessive online time to depression (people who spend a lot of time on games are sometimes expressing depression or antisocialism) but not always... or he could just be in a rut in his life and he needs to figure things out.. you should turn your focus on yourself, make yourself happy.. go out with friends, go shopping, get into sports.. when he sees how happy you are it'll either make him want to be around you more or it will put him at ease and he'll be able to deal with his own crap.

Answer 7

Listen to pip. turn your attention on yourself. Do what you need to do to get your life right maybe take up a second job to get out of your life's rut and your guy will come around. But DO NOT try to fix his problems and asking Whats wrong execesivly will only annoy him and push him away.

Answer 8

hi.
if you really don,t wanna loos him. then you have to forget what you have been asking.
give him more time to find himself.
there are many mans problems that you never can underrating. may he have some and he can talk about it.
give him more time to thing over.if you really love him?
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i wish you all the luck .your inter-net body Norman.

Answer 9

he is 27 he shouldnt want to play his xbox all day and some men just want space. but girl there is always plenty of fish in the sea let us know what happens and good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

He probably hasn't lost interest in you, but has developed other interests as well. You should either find something else to do, or move on.