I am having some trouble with girls. Any help?

Question

I am a VERY tall 16 year old guy. I am close to 7' tall, and only about 160lbs. Over all, I am a very shy person. I am a decent looking person overall (exept for being real thin). Most girls in school think I am real weird. I am not unpopular, and am just an average person. Many girls are afraid of me (i have been told), and one even ran when I was near. Today a few girls were laughing at me. I just don't get it. I have no clue about chicks. I am kind of bumbed about this. I am as I said real shy, and people for some reason dislike me untill they get to know me. I am too shy, to even ask a girl out now. What I need help with is how do I get better around girls? What do I do to make them more comfertable around me? Aside from working out (already started). It is kind of herd for me to describe. Smartass ansers are ok, but try to give some help too. Don't be real mean, I need some confidence now.

I live in pennsylvania.

Answer 1

Don't feel bad, because everyone goes through some kind of rejection. I don't really know anything about helping you feel more comfortable around girls, because i have the same problem with guys. The only thing I can say is that the girls who don't even try to get to know you are missing out. I remember when i talked to this guy everyone was afraid of because he was the 'emo' kid. but he was a really cool and awesome person and we've been friends ever since. You're only 16, so you have plenty of time to gain some confidence and there are plenty of really nice girls who would want to talk to you.

Answer 2

Hm, You sound like someone I know. Some guy in my school my friends are trying to hook me up with a guy like that, I don't know him at all, and I'm horribly shy too. I didn't know what I was going to do, or say, so I ran for it. I feel stupid for being a coward, but that may be why that girl ran from u. I don't think u sound all that scary, I don't think much scares me though. You shouldn't be afraid though, go on, and talk to a girl, that's not as hard as trying to ask one out. The topic doesn't have to be about something important, just talk about music, art, classes, T.V shows, Movies. Those things work most of the time. Hope this helped u out. and Good luck.

P.S. I live in PA too!
[Not that it matters or anything, I just felt like saying it! Oh, and don't worry about your weirdness, as far as I can tell, it's pretty normal these days.]

Answer 3

What you should do is try to make yourself look better with your clothes. Or make yourself a funny man, and talk more to make yourself use to not being shy. All we girls think about is how a boy looks with their face and clothes and if they are a little buff. You have to at least have some muscles. But I heard you have already gotten started on working out. So good! Just be more less stammering. Smile, or wince some like your cool and smooth.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Hey buddy, well the best and easiest way to get more comfortable around girls is to jsut be around them more. even though you are tall and thin there is a girl out there for you, you will just have to learn how to be more confident in yourself. As far as the girls laughing, boys and girls that age can be harsh (I know when i was that age i wasnt very nice but ive grown up and learned its not the way to be) but hang out with girls with similiar interests and you will learn how do deal with them better. keep your head up and dont worry, there is a girl out there for ya!

Answer 6

well you do seem like a nice guy, so i dont understand why these girls act the way they do, my only theory is, they are just plain inmature. the giggly ones that look at a tall 16yr old guy and begin to 'giggle' thinking they are all cool laughing at it, when i real life...one 18yr old would look at them and say, 'what are they on???' so, what i mean to say, its not you, its them. the girls that ran away from you, well like i said, they are just 'little' still, the ones who sleep with their blankees and get good night kiss. thats all really.

if i were you, id take advantage of it, i dont mean to be mean, but i mean to take advantage of the reputation you are getting. you are obviously a top guy, the ones girls can look up and say, 'damn'. and you know girls like tall guys, at least i would have back in highschool. the bigger the better, the smaller the worse.

as you walk through campus, walk with your chin up, not the arogant one, but walk with dignity and respect and youll get TRUST me youll get it...like i said, the taller the better. next time you see those little girls laugh at you, walk right up to them and say, 'yo' what so funny?' and theyll probably pee in their pants the minute you stand in front of them.

hope my advice helps!

Answer 7

just let a girl come to u. Girls can be like this, I oughta know I do this to a boy named Steven because...well he's also VERY TALL for his age. But I got to know him and he was really nice, THOUGH every day in 3rd period he gets me in trouble all the time ! Its fun, I love living out like in the raveen.The bad side

Answer 8

OK, confidence building 101 ... I posted this same answer for another guy, but it seems to apply to you too, so I hope that you don't mind the cut & paste.

You are probably taking it personally when other people do not react to you in the way that you expect them to. Learn how to stop doing that (taking it personally), and you will have solved most of your problem (it worked for me).

First of all, how people react to you probably has more to do with them, and the kind of day that they were having so far, than it does with you. If someone does not want to talk to you, act as if it is no big deal (no matter how she reacts) and move on to the next person. The opinion of just ONE person does not matter, so quit worring about the reaction of the last crazy person that you met. There ARE nice people out there, and you will find them if you keep talking to people.

By the way, if you seem needy, overly shy, too awkward, or too nervous around people, then they will feel hesitant about speaking to you because they will feel like you are a person who is easily offended, and they will feel nervous talking to you. Approach people with a self-confident smile that implies that you already know that they will like you, and it becomes a self-fulling prophecy since your positive attitude will be catching. Make sure that you make consistent eye contact, because that implies interest in the other person (always flattering), and it implies self-confidence (the opposite of fearful & needy). Keep keep talking to different people, and you will soon become better at it. You will soon feel confident, since you will realize that it is not really all that difficult.

BTW, if you find yourself staring at a cute girl, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.

Also, when you are talking to a girl, and you feel too shy to maintain eye contact, make sure that you look away by moving your eyes horizontally across the room as if you were looking for someone else. Do NOT look down, like most shy guys do (she will think that you are looking at her boobs, and get offended). If you do accidentally offend someone, don't be so apologetic about it that you look line a wimp (in the long run, women hate that). Just calmly say that you are sorry once and if she cannot drop it, then either tell her to drop it, or else find someone else to talk to.

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Oh yea, try to develop a sense of humor. You want to come across as "fun", but don't crack jokes so much that you seem "goofy". Anything can be overdone.

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If you are still felling nervous around people, remember this, you are a nice person, aren't you? Don't you make a loyal and good friend? If so, then anyone who doesn't want to talk to you is missing out, since THEY do not get to meet YOU. If a person doesn't want to be your friend, then they are the one who have lost their chance to meet a great person like yourself. Anyone who doesn't want to meet you probably did you a favor, since you don't want to be friends with a shallow person anyway, and they saved you the trouble of dumping them.

Also keep in mind that girls don't always know how to act around guys either. The ones who are getting nervous and running away laughing probably do that to every hot guy, not just you, since they lack confidence themselves. Act as if you didn't even notice, and go talk to someone else. If she is just nervous, then she will eventually get her courage back and come talk to you if you don't make a big deal out of it.

Answer 9

Just be yourself. This, may sound simple, but just talk to them. At 16 you should just try to be friends with them, no need for a serious relationship at your age. Maybe just say hello to them and try to be friendly, it will be a litle uncomfortable at first, but in the end, you will get more comfortable talking to them.

Good Luck.

Answer 10

well trying not to be a smartass but i really cant help you. you sound hott but i'm good around guys so i cant really help you. but i can say if you live near hendersonville,tn and i knew you i wouldn't run. i'd probably be all over you.