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ive agreed to go out with this guy
but i really like someone else. and the feelings are at least partially reciprocated
but im trapped now by the first one.

all options:
go out with no1 for a while
tell no1 ive changed my mind
go out once with no1 then not again

are horribly mean and pretty shallow, but i dont really know what else to do. ive got myself in this stupid situation myself :(

what would u do in my place

2006-10-05 10:24:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

11 answers

go out once and then tell him it just didnt click, get a free dinner out of it,,

2006-10-05 10:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1 0

Tell No1 you've changed your mind, it's nothing personal but actually there's someone else you're interested in.

The first rule of assertiveness is that you always have the right to change you mind. Or maybe it isn't. So go out with him once and see what he's like. He could be realy nice.

2006-10-05 17:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would go out with number 1, see if you have a nice time. You aren't committed to him after only one day. Who knows, you may have a fantastic time, but if not... Then you leave and be happy you have number 2 to fall back on.

Just as a side note though, I was in a similar situation this past summer except I had just broken up with my boyfriend and was meant to go on a date with someone else. The problem was that I still had feelings for my ex as he did for me. I ended up cancelling the date, happily for me we got back together after.

I suppose it depends how interested in each of them you are. Personally I would keep the first date in this situation, but if you really don't feel like it, just invent a tummy ache!

Best of luck!

2006-10-05 17:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 0 0

Be a woman of integrity.
tell no1 ive changed my mind

2006-10-05 17:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0 0

Be an adult and tell the man you have changed your mind and do not want to go out with him. You may say I am just not interested and I do not want to get you hopes set up, because you are a nice person

2006-10-05 17:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0 0

Be horribly mean and shallow ... just go out with him once, then say something llike "You're really nice but I don't think there's a future for us"

You have to bite the bullet and take any sh*t he decides he should throw at you!

2006-10-05 19:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0 0

Get involved with the other guy then tell the guy that you don't like that you are involved with someone else and you don't know what you were thinking you sorry if you hurt his feelings

2006-10-05 17:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0 0

tell him you've changed your mind, we all get ourselves into stupid situations like this, but dont go on a date with him cuz then your just building his hopes up even more. good luck

2006-10-05 17:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by cheryl 4 · 0 0

Fess up to number one and tell him you've changed your mind. The quicker you break it off, the less likely it is he will be hurt.

2006-10-05 17:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sean R 3 · 0 0

i do it all the time. I hate to be where you are. No one decision is the right one.... take each day as it comes. Hopefully it'll soon be over! good luck

2006-10-05 17:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by antagonist 5 · 0 0

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