Example..read your school book before you go out to play...her answer...tantrum. Another example ...you have not got time to watch telly it is bed time...her answer...tantrum. Where are we going wrong?
2006-10-05 10:21:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No we don't spoil her and do restrict treats, and no she's not mad...but she is very intelligent and headstrong.
2006-10-07 11:55:12 · update #1
she sounds mard or spoiled.is she?????
2006-10-05 10:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by avril h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow her to throw those tantrums. My suggestion is to get down on her level and give her the instructions that she needs to read her book before she goes out to play. Include in those instructions that if she throws another tantrum that her behavior is not tolerated and that there will be consequences for that behavior. Then get up and walk away without saying another word. Once she throws the tantrum take her by her hand and lead her to an area that she can sit down. Make sure she can not play with anything. Inform her that since she is 8 years old that she will have to sit there for 8 minutes. After 8 minutes go to her and hug her and tell her that you want to hear the word "sorry" from her.
If she gets up before the 8 minutes is up do not say a word to her just put her back where she was sitting. Walk away.
2006-10-05 10:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by steve s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This solved it for us. Give her a place to have a tantrum. When the tantrum starts, say "if you are going to act like this you need to do it here". Pick her up and put her in the tantrum area or what ever you call it. Stand there watching but do not speak to her unless she tries to leave the area then repeat the words, "if you are going to act like this you need to do it here". She may not leave this place until she is calm and has been seated quietly for five minutes. When her tantrum is over, set the timer in front of her and say "you may get up and continue ( doing what you told her to do ) when the timer rings". If she gets up, or tantrums again, start over. Do exactly this, even if it takes forever to complete. Three times will reduce the number of tantrums.
2006-10-05 11:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tantrums in an eight year old can often be a reflection of the anger she feels around her... is there tension in the house?
Has she learned that her opinion won't be listened to, and the only way to be heard is to scream and shout?
Does she ever have choice or flexibility? "Read your school book for 15 minutes, go play for an hour, come back and we'll do another 15 minutes"......"If you want to watch telly this evening, be ready to turn it off at 8.30 - you know that will be your bedtime"...etc
At eight, you can negotiate with her, sort out a timetable that will work for both of you... but you need to make the time to do that.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 10:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you watch Big Brother?? Nicky was 24 and still having tantrums. Girls are worse than boys for this. If she gets her own way through having a tantrum she will carry on like this.
Make strict rules and stick to them, bed times and so on. Once she knows you will not be swayed by tantrums she will give it up.
Let her have her tantrum in her room, and do not try to pacify her.!!!
2006-10-05 10:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont acknowledge the tantrum at all. Stand there and watch it, when she is done repeat your last statement and never change your mind. Soon she will learn that a tantrum gets her no-where. Worked for me, took about three weeks.
2006-10-05 10:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn the question around so its positive not negative eg. if you read 3 pages from your school book you can go out to play etc, it worked for me along with the usual pounishments for the tantrums, not playing your favourite game until a specific "good" time has passed, no sweets etc
2006-10-07 07:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's trying to test you. you and your partner must show a united front and when the tantrums occur then make her go and sit on a naughty stool. and make her sit there for a time say 4 minutes. she will learn quit soon it best not to have tantrums but you must be firm and united
2006-10-05 10:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by rphilsell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 8 year old daughter has just spent the whole of the Summer like that. had me in tears a few times. Thankfully she seems to be over it now, so all I can say is hang on in there, I am sure its just a phase.
My friend told me that she was reaching that age where they are just finding themselves and pushing boundaries to see how far they can go.
Good Luck.
2006-10-05 10:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the tantrums praise good behaviour all kids push boundaries and parents patience if all else fails a glass of wine should do it (you not her)
2006-10-05 10:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is pressing buttons then she will still do it. Try sending her to a place for a while to calm down. Try not to over react to them and then explain when she has calmed down she will still have to do the thing she has been asked to do. It takes alot of time and patience but does work. I still do this with my kids and they are 11. It gives us both a chance to take five minutes to calm down. Good luck
2006-10-07 23:12:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋