What can I do to increase my self confidence and self esteem?

Question

I've just got to do something to get out of this slump that I am in....

Answer 1

Try to see yourself as part of everyone else. We were all created because a greater being split itself into millions of pieces to experience. This means that whenever you look into someone else's (or even your own) eyes, look for the god in them.

Watch the Movie, "What the Bleep Do We Know." This is a great source for seeing yourself in a new light.

Make a list of all of your qualities and read it several times a day. Don't worry about your faults. Faults were put into place to help us learn lessons. When you screw up, don't beat yourself up. For instance, if you make a mistake in your checkbook, don't hit yourself in the head and call yourself stupid, or a dummy. This is negativity, and you should concentrate on the positive.

Try looking at the Big Picture. Why are we here? What is our purpose? Study history, read about quantum physics from authors like Stephen Hawking and Deepak Chopra, M.D. These are books that put QP in a perspective that the average person can understand.

We can't all be super models, but trust me when I say that when I finally got out of my slump (exactly as you now), people began looking at me in a different way. The saw that I was confident, but that I also knew when I didn't understand something, I looked it up, read about it, talked to others who knew.

If you have people in your life that are always negative, this will draw on your good energies. Try avoiding them. Go shopping, get a new haircut. Wake up each day saying, I'm a God/Goddess, and I am connected to everything else in the universe. This makes me just as special as anyone else in the universe.

Most of all, learn what your purpose is. The only way to do that is to educate yourself. The Bible, though a good source of history, is terribly flawed--find out how and why.

Go to bed each night saying, "I will wake up in the morning being as beautiful and smarter than I am today, and I won't let anything stop me from being the me that is unique because I am a part of something bigger.

Hope this helps. Chin up, and fight. You've already taken the first step in understanding this, now do something about it.

Answer 2

When I start to get really down on myself I do three things in this order:
1) Work out, even a simple thing like taking a walk does wonders for the way I feel.
2) Get a new haircut (or something else that is special for you) I find making a outward change can some times really effect our inward feelings.
3) Finally put on a outfit that you know looks good on you, and do your make up and go out for a night on the town. If you are too young for nights on the town, wear it to school and walk around with your head up high.
These things really make a differance in how I feel, and how I project myself onto others, and thus how they react to me. If they react positivly that also raises my self esteem, but it's because of the way I acted to start with. :)
I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Your question needs to be more precise: the practice of a good physical activity (swimming, biking, running...) which you do at a level which you find comfortable and do on a regular basis will increase your well being, self-confidence and self-esteem. If we are talking about work, then you must also find something which you feel reasonably good about (hardly anybody likes work, really) and concentrate on the good points. Finding a friend of the opposite sex (or whatever) also increases the aspects you mention.

Answer 4

self belief and self self belief come from succeeding at issues... self belief is born of expertise, after having an excellent result to a complicated situation. Take toddler steps, mission your recommendations and your body, then income the arrogance to face both between your friends in society. Books gained't do this for you! life is a song, humanity is a dance floor, and also you're a dancer... Now get obtainable and DANCE! :-) ("Smile" only once you're satisfied... some thing else is pretend, and also you'd be clear.)

Answer 5

Self confidence and self esteem come from attempting something and being successful at it. No matter if it is sweeping the house or discovering a cure for cancer. So get busy and even help someone less fortunate than you. Also, treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend... with patience, care and attention.

Answer 6

Try setting some SMALL goals for yourself, attainable goals! A sense of accomplishment can do a lot for your self confidence. Maybe just do some good deeds. Then there will be benefit for someone else as well. And smile!!

Answer 7

First thing - do some simple chores around the place. Believe it or not, this really helps. It is getting up to get started that's the worst. Then, come over and do the chores around MY place, so that I can continue in this slump...

Answer 8

stop judging and evaluating yourself against other people or by other peoples standards. deep down inside you know how wicked cool you are. that's the voice you need to listen to, not that nagging critic that you've internalized from someone else. there is no-one else who could take your place in this whole wide world, and no-one can do the things that you do. don't expect yourself to run for Prez or anything like that; we all need a little humility, too. we are all very small, but amazing beautiful wonderful unique and important beings in our own way. if you have lost your way, then you need to find it. it matters. good luck!

Answer 9

The only real way is do things that you can be proud of, like helping someone out or accomplishing a worthwhile goal.

Answer 10

make a list of your positive attributes and a list of all the probems you DON'T HAVE. When you realize how sell you are compared to others you will feel better. Another way it to wear makeup and dress neatly.