There's this girl at my school who I refuse to call a friend, she's happily dating a really great guy right now, but she cheated on him once, and he took her back after the other guy wouldn't go out with her. And now she's involved with another guy. I feel really bad for the guy, and I've decided not to get in the middle of it. But sometimes I think he likes me. We say hello to each other in the hall, and we talk any chance we get in World Cultures. Then it makes me want to tell him about her fooling around with another guy. I'm a little confused right now, anyone got some advice?
2006-10-05 10:16:48 · 25 answers · asked by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dynamite360, she used to be a friend of mine, I don't consider her a friend, but I'm stuck with her, she can't take a hint. I'm not jealous, I know the guy and I can't help but feel bad for others, it's just how I am.
2006-10-05 10:35:10 · update #1
do NOT tell him about her. don't ever talk about her with him. it will just make it look like you are TRYING to have them break up.
2006-10-05 10:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by a g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to tell him, just say, "I know I don't know you that well, but I can tell that you are a good guy. I consider you my friend, which is why I think I should tell you something very important. Remember how Julie cheated on you before? Well, I know she has been messing around with Nathan for about three weeks now. I didn't think you knew, and I had to tell you the truth since you are a friend to me. I am truly sorry she doesn't respect you enough to break off your relationship before involving herself in another. I hope you aren't angry at me for saying this, but I think you deserve better than Julie anyway."
Regardless if he likes you or not, he has a right to know, and if you are the one telling him, it will help your relationship if he does like you... which he probably does. This gives him an easy way out with - whatever her name is - just make sure you have all of your facts straight before you approach this conversation.
2006-10-05 17:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by sos_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough one missy. You are being wise to not want to get in the middle of a relationship such as this bad one.
You say that y'all talk in a class any time you get? Do a bit of fishing -- ask him how he would feel if people knew is girlfriend was cheating but they didn't tell him. You might be setting yourself though for him to drill you to find out what you might know.
Another idea is -- first, are y'all high school students or college students? If your high school students, you could stick a note in his locker -- it's worth a try. If your college students, you don't have a locker. Oh! Just a thought -- you could find out what car he drives and stick a note on his windshield. Be sure people you both know don't see you.
2006-10-05 17:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. r u trying to score browny points or what??? it will get u know where... u need to mind ur own busines.. it's not ur business to tell whether she's ur friend or not.. seems like u know alot bout this girl that u won't call ur friend... r u jealous of her? why do u know all her business and can't find the time to tend to ur own?? it's not ur job to feel sorry for anyone but urself.. seems like u wanna tell him so he won't go back to her and give u a chance... if that ain't hating then i dont' know what is.....
if he likes u and wants to get w/u then accept that for what it is and focus on what u and him will be not on what u and him can be if u tell him bout his ex.......
2006-10-05 17:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U feel sorry for the guy. U think he likes u. I think u like him. I m confused as to what r u confused bout. Just an answer
2006-10-05 17:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get a chance in World Cultures tell him "i'm just looking out for your heart and I think you need to know that she's cheating on you again."
He might not be very happy at that moment, but in time he will thank you.
2006-10-05 17:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mambers 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are doing the right thing not getting involved. and if she is not a friend,....who says you can't make your move on the guy. take care of you first, let the rest figure itself out. put yourself out there, and if he see what a fantastic person you are, he won't let you slip away.
2006-10-05 17:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by SANDRA RENEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Peanut. Are you interested in him? He will find out about his girlfriend in good time. Let it play out and, trust me, the end is in sight for them. Once it is officially over, and he wants to date again, he will not want to date the one who squealed.
Just sit back and watch the show.
Good luck, sweetie.
2006-10-05 17:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. She may not be your friend, but imagine how hurt he will be and although she is the one cheating... people often blame the messenger. Talk to her and tell her that you know. Convince her to tell him. It will be better coming from her. Watch Mean Girls - where Lindsay Lohan tells the guy that she likes who is dating Rachel McAdams that Rachel is cheating on him. See the reaction.
2006-10-05 17:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would say tell him even if you did not like him. Hell If I was blind to such **** I would want someone to tell me. Open his eyes he will be very happy you did. Would you like to go through life with someone cheating on you and you had no clue? Wouldn't you want someone to tell you?
2006-10-05 17:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off if you tell him he won't beleive it most likely. But if you think that its not fair to him then you should talk to the girl and tell her that if she doesn't like him to let it go. What is the advantage of being with both?
if she doesn't come clean then, catch her in the act.
2006-10-05 17:23:28 · answer #11 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋