There was a guy I'd seen every morning at the train station, so knowing that I wouldn't be on that train from yesterday I gave him a little note on Tuesday to say he brightened my day, and if he wanted to brighten my evening to text or call. I got this answer:
"Hi. Unfortunately I'm in a relationship but thanks for the note, it was very sweet and I appreciate it must have been hard to do! I'll see you tomorrow"
Indeed he came over and initiated a conversation the next day, we talked for 40 mins - he didn't mention the gf at all. When I was getting off the train he asked when I'd next be on it, then told me he'd be there for a year...
Now then, impressions? I've not done anything else about it yet.
2006-10-05 10:13:56 · 24 answers · asked by kittygomew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he sincerely liked your note but may have felt overwhelmed
perhaps he does have a gf and perhaps not but, give it time and go slow
2006-10-05 10:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible that he doesn`t have a gf...and it is possible that he wrote that just to make you courious,or even maybe he didn`t really know from what girl the note came.But this can not be for sure,so don`t fall with him before you don`t know for sure if he has a girl or not.if he really has one,he will tell you soon about her again. why don`t you try to ask him what he will do in the weekend?he could reveal the truth then.if he sais he is free,then he is all yours,but if not,I am afraid that he could have a gf...try in a subtile way to find out what you really want to know.If you have spoken for so long he likes you for sure,but you can`t know if he likes you enough to start a relationship with him,
kiss and good luck,hope it will go the way you want it.
2006-10-05 10:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't read too much into it if I were you. I think he's just being friendly and polite, maybe even secretly enjoying a little flirting but remember you don't know this guy very well at all. He may not have mentioned his girlfriend when talking but he did already tell you he had one - be careful.
2006-10-05 13:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Helen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? Can a man not be polite to you without it "meaning something"? He specifically told you "I'm in a relationship" and probably assumes you can understand what that means. Does that mean he shouldn't speak to another human being while killing time at the train depot??
He said: I'm in a relationship- do you expect him to keep repeating that every time he sees you? Or are you hoping he'll decide to cheat on his partner and start something on the side?
PS I'm in a relationship doesn't mean girlfriend. He could be gay.
2006-10-05 10:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probable involved with someone else most likely they've been together for a long time. Also he must be interested in you or he wouldn't want to see you after your note. If he's not married then he's fair game, good luck.
2006-10-05 12:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by fidxgonzo32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a girlfriend but you flattered him by sending that message and he is now enjoying the attention, as you would.
I wouldn't take him seriously.
If you enjoy the conversation that's OK and can't do any harm.
You did manage to get his attention but how he actually feels about you at this stage would probably be that he is interested to hear about himself from you.
I think the fact that you approached him first is flattering to him.
2006-10-05 10:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't people just enjoy each other's company without reading into everything?
He didn't mention his gf 'cause he already told you that he has one.
Put yourself in his gf's shoes- would you want someone trying to steal your man away from you?
Q: If he leaves her and goes with you, will you post a question asking if you're just a rebound girl?
2006-10-05 10:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by chilean_sea_ass 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe he jsut likes the attention and to flirt. I am not saying he isnt attracted to you, he probably is, but you possibly could just be an ego boost. We all like to have one of those about. Its probably best to keep it innocent, play it cool, as he does have a girlfriend if your start really liking him the only one who will get hurt is you, unfortunately. If you are enjoying just an innocent flirt...then why not :)
2006-10-05 10:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sara P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Just be his friend. He was trying to be respectful of your feelings AND his relationship. You flattered him but he's not available. I understand your pain, I do, but don't go for it. He's taken. You'd want the same consideration from another woman if this were your man. Good luck to you.
2006-10-05 10:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by pisceanwillow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's a nice guy who doesn't want to fool you by saying he's available when he isn't. If he's only around for a year, he might be lonely and just wants to be friends.
Just enjoy having him as a friend and find some other way to enjoy him and his company!
2006-10-05 12:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used the relationship as a safety net. He is interested in you but doesnt really know anything about you. Only time will tell if you have anything in common and if you and him will work, But he definately does sound interested!
2006-10-05 10:23:07 · answer #11 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋