help please?

Question

This is sort of long, but bare with me. Okay, Ive liked this guy in my school for like, 2 years now. But since then, Its escelated. I mean, have you just looked at someone and realized you just "click". We have this connection, well, sometimes. See, sometimes we flirt and have total conversations that I never want to end, but then, there's times he ignores me and acts like a total prick. But I still have these feelings for him. When I stand near him, I feel safe. When I think about him, I feel weak, and at the same time this joy fills me. I'm 16 and I'm not going to say I love him because I'm 16 and couldnt know what that is. So here's my thing: I have these crazy feelings for him, but I'm not about to chase a relationship that isnt there. So, how do I get over him?

Answer 1

If you feel this strongly about him then why don't you talk to him about your feelings

Answer 2

Hon, I'm in the same situation with FOUR guys. It's insane what puppy love can do to you isn't it??? I'm 15 and a half and first of all I can't decide which of the four I like the most, second one of them is in Italy and is continuously moving around for the army, third one of them likes this other girl and they're kind of going out, fourth another one is into all these athletic type girls and I'm not, I'm skinny, but not in a bunch of sports just track, anyway, fifth another one I've liked the longest, not the most, just the longest, but I think he just considers us JUST FRIENDS!!! So I know exactly what you're going through, and the whole acting like a prick thing, 3 of those 4 guys do that every once in a while. It's annoying and frustrating. As far as getting over him, it's impossible until you find someone else that you like. You can't help who you like, so if you think you're pathetic for still liking him even though he acts like a prick towards you sometimes, you're not. It's just how us teenage girls are right now, in puppy love. So, as for my advice, flirt your butt off, try your best to help lure him to you and make sure sooner or later he knows how you feel if you think he likes you. That guy of mine that likes this other girl liked me before, but I didn't do anything about it because I wasn't sure if I wanted him over the other 3. Don't miss your chance. Good luck and if possible let me know how it works out, if you don't want to, that's okay. Bye!

Answer 3

You don't have to be an adult to know what love is. In my opinion everyone knows what love is, and when you know its there, its there. Why dont you ask the guy how he feels about it? If hes flirting with you some of the time then chances are he might like you. So talk to him about it. Don't just bring it up out of the blue, but when you two are having one of those great conversations you were talking about, say something like "You know, you're a really great person. You wanna try maybe being more than friends?" If he doesn't feel the same way, try to forget about him and move on. It might be hard at first, but once you find another guy whose worth your time you'll forget about him. Good luck.

Answer 4

first why do you want to get over him if you have these feelings for him? because he is acting like a 16 yr old guy and being wishy washy with his actions? trust me, in my experiance most guys have their moments when they act like a "total prick" though most grow out of it around high school and college. Why don't you talk to him about what you are feeling? if he is flirting with you and stuff he at least finds you attractive, that way you know if he is really into you or he just wants to mess with you, (in high school either one could be true.) once you know what his feelings are then go from there, if he doesn't want anything with you, then walk away and go find someone else, if he does, start from there, but explain that you don't like when he changes into a prick.

Answer 5

First I don't think you want us to get naked with you -- my supervisor laughed at me for this before a long time ago; it is "bear with me". I am glad you realize the need to not say you love him at your age, and that you aren't going to chase him. I did that when I was young and it led to nothing but humiliation or embarrassment, like when this guy supposedly liked me and I went there wondering why he hadn't called, he said he had to leave right away and the next thing I knew he came around the corner in his truck with a girl sitting up close to him and they both looked right at me. That suc#ed big time. Anyway, people always say guys come and go. If he wants to go out with you, he will let you know. Try to find things to do that interest you. When you suddenly have to go off to pursue it (like a seminar or something), it makes you a more interesting person. And most of all try not to talk about any particular guy too much around your friends or they will get sick of it, and when you have a boyfriend make sure you don't stop hanging around them or spend too much time with the guy. You had a life before you got together, if you leave them behind they may not be there when you aren't going out with the guy anymore. Plus the guy will end up feeling smothered if you monopolize all of his time. Don't forget to smile a lot, it makes people wonder what you've been up to. And wear sunglasses on cloudy days for "wishful thinking"! Have fun~!

Answer 6

I think the only way to really get over someone is getting to know a person and seeing where things really go. I mean you say you are 16 so i take it that he is too, he could be confused, so keep him as a friend if that is the case. If you feel that you can't do that, mabey you should just hang with the girls, and get to know yourself and the things you want out of life. It takes time to get over someone, mine as well keep yourself busy:)

Answer 7

if he acts like atotal pr*ck towards you, then find another guy, that is the only reason you are so attracted to the guy, is because you somehow see him as a badboy type maybe,, if thats the case give it up,those kind are not for you, find the guy that respects you and hangs on your every word,, the badboy type will call you names and apoligze escalae to being rough , then finaly to flat out beatings if this is the relationship that you crave then go at him full speed ahead, be aggressive and tell him you want him,, but remember after the first black eye,,dump him

Answer 8

maybe he acts like that because he likes you but doesnt know how to tell you thats what boys do i think well i'm 14 so i wouldnt know Lol but if you wanna make him like you more just flirt with boys around him he might get mad but after a whileyou are me shouldnt be he will ask you out thats what my old bf did to me and when i say flirt i dont mean kiss r stuff lie that cause kissing leads to stuff that we dont wanna do but as i'm a good girl and my mom told me dont have sex and i''m not ganna until 19 ^_^ well you just need to do what i said bhut dont have sex with him if he askes you out and if he tells u he loves you and you say the same he's ganna wanna have sex as my mom told me LOL

Answer 9

hun, you aren't going to get over him easily. In the meantime, find out if he likes you back. if he does flirt a little more and if he doesnt consider him as a friend for awhile untill you find someone knew. and honey these aren't feelings.. this is love

Answer 10

If love him express your self after doing so u might loose him, but if u dont express u will surely loose him.

In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.
- Theodore Roosevelt

Answer 11

It's called infatuation, sounds like you are a daydreamer waiting for your prince charming and you think you have found him. You'll grow out of it.