So every Thursday my ex comes to the bar where I hang out at. (There is live music every Thursday). I wouldn't normally see this as a problem, but he keeps coming there and staring at me but making no verbal contact whatsoever. Weird. Well for the last five weeks, he has brought a girl along with him and she joins in in this staring contest. Umm...what the hell? If I were her, I'd be pissed off and completely uncomfortable...I wouldn't even keep on coming to tell you the truth if my guy took me to where his ex hangs out. So here I am, having fun with my friends and I have these weirdos staring at me. I try to ignore it, turn my back so that I can't see them stare...but what gives?? Should I say something, keep doing what I'm doing, what?? And girls..wouldn't you be pissed? And guys...why on earth would you do something like this?
P.S. I have a new boyfriend, he just hasn't been able to come out on Thursdays until tonight. :)
2006-10-05 09:54:13 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a little twisted. I'd advise you to do the following:
When you and your friends are at the bar, laughing and drinking and having a good time, check to see if they are staring at you. If they are, huddle up with your friends and tell every one of them to turn around at stare at them. Your friends can have a staring contest with your ex to see who blinks first.
Just keep doing that until he stops staring or stops showing up. That's just a little creepy.
FP
2006-10-05 09:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, 'fcourse I'll be pissed! (I wouldn't show it dough...).
I would try to act normal. Well, you said that your guy will be there... Why not let him help you? Have a great time, in fact have a wonderful time! Relax! that's why you're there!
If they keep starin', if they both stay there even you are with your man, try the following: Make a deal with your man. Tell him something, and then both of you turn their way and stare a bit. then keep talking. Tell your guy to send them both a drink by a waiter, and an invitation to your table. Maybe something saying: We got the picture, but where's the tone??? Wave them when they get a message. If they do nothin', both of you go to them a bit later. Your guy must act firm and be cold as a rock. Be cool. Introduce him to your x nicely. totally relaxed. Ask them have they enjoyed the music, and the drink. And then if there is a silence, your guy should whisper something on your ear, and you could giggle, like you are ashamed (in a sweet and innocent way). Then excuse yourself and exit the bar with your bf. You two must act like a real team! You see. Your X will be so embarrassed!
2006-10-05 10:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Looda_Plavusha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well please dont return the favor and haveyour boyfriend and you have a staring contest with them. Be mature and have a good time with your boyfriend and show him that yall are having fun and that your not paying attention to thoses stupid stares. If it doesnt stop then the next Thursday you need to go over to these couple of weirdos and ask them what the **** they looking at? And why the hell are yall here at my job making me feel uncomfortable? Express to him that you wouldnt come up to his job and do no crazy stuff like that so dont come to yours or you can tell your manager if it still persists.
2006-10-05 09:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what happens tonight, if they see you with a guy maybe they will stop. Maybe they think your there to piss them off. If I was your ex's girl I wouldnt be pissed but yeah probably a little uncomfortable. I think you shouldnt be so concerned with what their doing and just have a good time, no ones harming anyone so let it go.
2006-10-05 10:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend should post up at a table across from them and start pointing and laughing at them for no apparant reason. Either they will come up to the table and ask you what you are laughing at or they will be too embarassed to say anything and leave. Either way the problem will be resolved. No confrontation. If they walk up and ask what you guys are laughing at, just tell them you find it hilarious how they are staring at you two like stalkers. It's creepy and flattering at the same time. ;)
2006-10-05 09:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by deguia215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say continue to make the night a girl's night with the girls. Don't introduce a new guy into this twist. The Ex is a little off... and as far as the ex's chick- I would never!!!! Go and have a good time. Let them eat their hearts out.....
2006-10-05 09:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the two of them to join you and your beau and group of friends tonight. Act like the two of you are still friends. Introduce your beau like this, "This is my boyfriend Robert, Robert, this is my old friend Nathan, and his girlfriend...." Wait for him to answer with her name. Nine times out of ten, he will be so flabbergasted at your exuberant nature that he will momentarily forget her name. This will piss her off, and probably make the two of them back off. Even if the continue to come to the bar, the pair will know that you are over him, and have something better holding you down.
2006-10-05 10:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by sos_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is his friend and he's been telling her bad stuff about you. Talk to the bouncer and ask to have them removed. Or you can just stop hanging around that bar for a while and maybe after a few months go back and hopefully they will be gone.
2006-10-05 09:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzybunny95531 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. they will eventually stop and hopefully get a life. Don't let them change your routine....if you can't ignore them then you should find somewhere else to go for a while and then come back to this thursday bar in like a month and hopefully they will think you don't go there anymore and stop coming..
2006-10-05 09:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl your a celebrity -LIVE IT UP! Let them watch and stare like a bunch of fools. Truth is .he wants to see you and probally has come up with an "evil story" etc.... that he told his new girl,to give him the consensus to stare at you.If he gets her to join in the staring,it makes it alright for him to do it. I would ignore it. Your worth watching,love it!
2006-10-05 09:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋