My girlfriend is dating a guy who has no idea that she listens to his voicemail and checks his emails. Now that she knows a few things about a few of his girls and she has caught him in so many lies she doesn't know what to do. I told her she was looking for trouble and now she has found it. I really don't know what she should do? Please help!
2006-10-05 09:52:07 · 37 answers · asked by mudda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all to all of the ignorant children on Yahoo! When I said my girlfriend that is simply a phrase that you call your friend.
I have a husband and I cannot see myself snooping around in his business. Therefore, my own advice to her was to walk away from the relationship but then we have another saga! She is a drama queen and I was merely asking for a little advice for her and that's why I asked yahoo the question.
2006-10-05 10:05:41 · update #1
since there is obviously a trust issue on both parts they need to go separate ways.
2006-10-05 09:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rich C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, this has happened to me when my ex checked my AIM chat log files. I was talking to another girl and expressing my love to her. My ex caught me in a huge lie and we broke up shortly after. On one hand I felt betrayed and I was mad at her, but you know it was my fault not to bring it up to her. I regret not telling my ex the situation but it worked out in the end. I know it was the wrong thing to do and if you tell the guy you might feel the same way eventually. This is a live and learn situation and the guy will probably be upset and he will say its an invasion of privacy, but it needs to be brought up before it goes to far. Hope this personal experience helps.
2006-10-05 09:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Nemesis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you stating that you "really don't know what she should do?" Why is it up to you what she should do? Anyway, she should break up with the guy. She doesn't have to tell him that she was snooping, she just has to tell him that this isn't working out for her. A relationship without trust is doomed.
2006-10-05 10:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to find trouble then be in the dark about it. She was obviously suspicious of him cheating and what do you mean by a "few of his girls". If they are in a relationship that word should be singular she should be the only girl in his life. If you want to be a real friend tell her to stop wasting her time on that player/pimp and tell her she needs a real man who doesn't lie to her.
2006-10-05 09:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually this had happened to me - i happened to get my xboyfriends code and checked his voicemail at his house, ,,,and there was this girl on the machine "hey hun its crystal...call me" and there i was babysitting HIS daughter while he was working. it was not my business to check it and i know that, but man am i glad i did. obviously he was cheating on me with this girl (and other ones too i found out later).my point is, sometimes i think girls do these things like check the voicemail, etc, because we have suspicions. i know it doesnt make it right. but if you have doubts than you are probably right. thats the advice id give your friend. good luck.
2006-10-05 09:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldnt be with a guy she cant trust... Its stupid cheating men that make us girls start snooping in the first place. I dont disagree with her snooping if she found something... but if she had to start looking in the first place, then something is wrong with the relationship.
2006-10-05 09:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok ok, my boyrfriend told me his password to myspace, and i looked to see if he was being honest. So i looked at his email on there and saw this girl who he got with on his cruise and she lives in like Illinois. He was saying that she loves him and sh*t and made me realli upset. That's what I get for checking his sh*t. After that I'm done, I trust him. Because those emails were from like right be4 we started dating. She should maybe analize her relationship with this guy and see if he is realli worth this aggervation. I wish to god I never read half the sh*t that girl sent my boyfriend. It makes me sad. So she realli needs to sit down and think about what she should do...
2006-10-05 09:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im confused by this question. Im assuming that you are bisexual or a lesbian since you have a girlfriend, but your girlfriend is dating a guy who is dating other girls. This sounds like a Jerry Springer episode, I'd suggest contacting him.
2006-10-05 09:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All u can do is tell her that she is crazy if she continues to have anything to do with this man, and if she continues...u tried. She will have to either listen to a good friend or find out the hard way.
2006-10-05 09:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by megcheeker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that their relationship is pretty much doomed now. You may as well tell her because if she gets too serious with a bloke who cheats on her or lies to her, she is heading for trouble. Save he *** and tell her what he is doing to her. That may change her mind about him and make her grateful to you for it also.
2006-10-05 09:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by johnno K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is wrong of her to get into his personal things if she feels he is lieing then she should break it off. There is no room for deception or a lack of trust in a good Relationship.
2006-10-05 09:55:34 · answer #11 · answered by Cameron T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋