we work together and I have broken up with him twice but I am weak and give in to his pleading, reasoning and convincing sweetness. I really don't think this is the guy for me and would rather be alone and wait for the real thing. I told him i didn't think we were right for each other the frst time we broke up, and the second time I told him i just wanted to be alone.
I don't know about you, but a person only has to tell me once that they don't want me, and i am done. this guy won't take no for and answer.
so I am looking for a clever way to dump him that he won't be able to argue with. remember, we work together, so I can't say I am leving the country or anything!
thanks :)
2006-10-05 09:40:38 · 25 answers · asked by biachachacha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
\i have a similar problem but i do not work with this guy i know....but he just will not leave me alone...i like him really but he is to possessive for one thing....he wants to know every move i make and always wants me to spend time with him...i have grand kids and family and i know that i can not be real serious with him because i have lived a life with a very abusive possessive man before....but you work with this guy...i would just tell him i am busy and try to break it off slowly with him...maybe you should tell him you are wanting to go more slow with things now and that you have a lot on your mind and you are going to be busy for awhile...maybe he will get the hint...
2006-10-05 09:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you are in control of your life, no one else. This guy is trying to "control you". Simple answer, block his email, telephone calls on home and cell phone and that is that. If he continues to harass you, then seek lawful assistance and place a restraining order against him. Then he can not come near you to play on your emotions. Stand up for yourself. You are stronger than you think! In the long run, you will be glad you took the necessary steps to take your own life back. The Lord has a plan and purpose for your life. Pray and ask for guidance, strength and direction. You will be just fine until the real love of your life comes along.
2006-10-05 16:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth but be firm and nice at the same time. Some times a guy like that is crazy and will stalk you over something like that. Tell him you're interested in another guy or that you're a lesbian. I use that lesbian line a whole lot. Just be honest and don't beat around the bush (get right to the point).
2006-10-05 16:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you tell him that you are absolutlly not interested in him and never will be and quite going back to him because that is why he keeps coming back, you let him before after he begged right, why not now. Block his calls, e-mails, ect. and don't let him have the chance to beg anymore, make it absolutly clear you are not interested. If he won't leave you alone after that then threaten a restraining order that usually gets the attention of an obsessive person. You have to be the strong one and make sure you are clear with him and stick with it.
2006-10-05 16:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him and make it clear that you don't want to be with him. Now here is how you make it clear take these steps
1. Delete his number from your phone.
2. Label his email as spam.
3. Have one of your male friends pick you up from work
4. Ignore his calls
5. When you tell him its over tell him there is nothing to talk about and please be a man about this.
6.When he asks you why you didnt return his calls tell him you have been very busy
7. If he asks to be friends tell him you dont need him as a friend right now.
Never date a person you work with or hook them up with a job.
If a girl did all 5 of those things to me I would leave her alone no matter how obsessed I am with her.
2006-10-05 16:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by kalik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could the reason he won't take NO for an answer be because you are not saying NO? You have said yourself this will be the third time you are trying to break up with him. Try actually saying "I DO NOT WANT TO DATE YOU." And don't go back on it tomorrow.
2006-10-05 16:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pawn him off on some else you dont like. just tell him you heard a rumor she wanted him. his curiosity should get the better of him. either she takes him because of his new advances or she makes a scene and you dumb him for trying to cheat. of course if he doesnt take the bait then you'll have to try something else but this dosnt take much effort so no loss.
2006-10-05 16:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by brett.brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him how it is and you stand your ground. Ya sounds simple but you have to do if you want this to really happen. If you feel threaten or suspect something wrong involve the police and notify your employer. This is why you don't date someone from work. Sorry and good luck
2006-10-05 16:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lady C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a freak, and it sounds like you're the only girl that will go out with him.. so he's gonna keep at it.
If you want it to stop for good, tell him... if he doesn't leave you alone after that, tell your boss.
2006-10-05 16:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by bill m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You work together.. which means HE ALSO has to follow the rules. Don't be weak. Tell him you don't want to date him, and never once let the words "I'm Sorry" pass your lips. Be fair, but be firm.
2006-10-05 16:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋