Break-up Question?

Question

My boyfriend and I recently had an argument and he said he wants space from me. He told me he loves me to death and still wants to be with me but not right now. He never said anything about wanting to see other people and I don't want to see other people either. I really love him and want to be with him. We are both in college and our schools are 4hrs. apart. I haven't seen him since Aug 28 and he won't be back home until Thanksgiving. What do you guys think I should do? Should I wait for him or should I move on?

Answer 1

Wait... see him over thanksgiving and then see if he has moved on... that way you will not be the bad person.

Answer 2

I take this question personally because I was in this same boat about 2 years ago. I don't wanna say move you...but I will say do you! What I mean is that you can go out, casually date someone else, but nothing serious (no title). More than likely (being a guy), he will prolly find another chick to occupy his time..I mean you guys are 4 hrs apart. Depending on how he is (sorry if I offend), but you may only be his home chick that's why he wants space while he is away

Answer 3

what do you think you should do?? i get the feeling your not feeling too good about this...or else you wouldnt be questioning your relationship...if he asked for space give it to him...but on the other hand always have yourself prepared to hear whatever...so when you hear it you want be as surprised....if your thinking he's with someone else wich could be a strong possibility...hold on to that because you really don't know whats going on your not there...so just be prepared just in case, and i promise you will know how to deal with it a lil bit more better because that is something that you had already suspected...and yea it will hurt but not as much...if i were you i would wait because you never know...him asking for space could be of complete innocence....but i would also leave my options open....thanksgiving is just right around the corner...see what happens when he gets home...and if the connection is still there...than i would say stay by your man...but if those feelings you once had for each other are no longer there...than i think you should consider moving on....good luck!!!

Answer 4

Honestly, if it's meant to be, you will find eachother again. If he says that he realli loves you, 99% of the time he's probably telling you the truth, so yes he does love you. I think that maybe you two at thanksgiving should sit down and talk about where you two see yourselves in a year or two. If you're going to be together or not. It's honestly better to talk things over so you dont have the feeling of "what if". Don't do anything until you two have a good talk! Good luck!

Answer 5

I would inform him since he wants space that you are going to start dating other people. It is not fair to you to make you wait in the wings and see what he wants to do. You haven't seen him already for almost 2 months. Giving space means less on the calls and still going out on a Friday/Saturday night. I bet he is already seeing someone else even if he doesn't say it. Your young and enjoy life instead of staying in.

Answer 6

I think you should first clear up by giving him space. Ask him straight out. Be clear if that means your both free to see other people and see what happens. Most of the time long distance relationship does not work. He does not know what your doing and you dont know what he is doing. And to be honest guys are guys and all women knows that they have needs. My opinion talk things out with him and be friends for now. If ya were meant to be then it will. But for now don't stress. Go out have fun......Enjoy being in college. You will have enough time to be someone's wify. But be honest and tell him how you feel.

Answer 7

You are 4 hours apart and he wants space? That's kinda odd. But anyway, don't do anything now. Wait for him till Thanksgiving and have a good long talk with him about everything. And then make up your mind.

Answer 8

This is from a guys perspective, if my girl is only 4 hours away Iam going to take time out to go and see her or make arrangements for her to come and see me.

Now when I tell a girl I need space and all Iam doing is talking to her on the phone. That means leave me alone b/c I don't see you and my only communication with you is over the phone. Think about it ....

Here is my advice move on , your young. Enjoy your college years.

Answer 9

No one else can tell you that.
I would get clarification on the SPACE comment.
Ask him what it means and don't be all in his face about it just say that you want to know because obviously it will apply to both of you.
I would say that if a man says he loves you to death and does not call you between now and Thanksgiving there is reason to question him.
Be strong, follow your heart, but listen to your head.

Answer 10

I think he's just makin sure ur there when he comes home from school. He probably wants space b/c he's away at college and he doesn't want to do something to hurt you. He's just trying to be college guy right now. Don't stress about this, cuz if it's meant to be it will be. Besides you need to concentrate on school and having a good time with your friends.

Answer 11

Well then it's a good thing its Thanksgiving weekend!!! (Unless you aren't from Canada.....American Thanksgiving is a long ways away...) BUT ON A HAPPY NOTE I GET TO EAT THREE THANKSGIVING DINNERS THIS WEEKEND, YAY CANADA! Anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. Don't let him get you down. Focus on your studies and have fun, this is you time now girl! Live it up. If he loves you as much as you think, he'll come around. So don't stress, you don't need it