And if so, what could I say? We work in IT and our department only had four people in it. He had hired on as a senior programmer but he wasn't keeping up. He's engaged. We had some problems, weren't the best of friends, but I don't wish him any ill will.
2006-10-05 09:28:21 · 19 answers · asked by Jeremy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
NO, if you weren't cool like that. Let him be.
If you still feel strongly, drop him a line that says basically wish you the best, I'll be happy to be a reference for you in the future.
2006-10-05 10:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in touch with him any way that you like. But let the boss tell him he' fired. A visit or a phone call might be better than an e-mail. Empathize with him. Tell him about a time you were laid off (if it's true.) You can still make friends with him, or at least make nice. He may need to vent to someone. Just listening can be a wonderful gift to him. Don't defend the boss no matter what stupid thing he may say, though.
2006-10-05 19:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nick â? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well chances are if you ahd anythign to do with him getting fired it would be best not to email him. He would most likely view it wrongly,. No matter what you said.
If you were just co-workers, then no. Chances of him really caring would be slim. He has bigger problems in his life.
If you were friendly co-workers then yes. Emailing him might help him see he is not a bad person. Just maybe not right for the position.
If you email him stay off the subject of his firing. Just let him know he will be missed as a friend only. Don't put yourself in the middle.
2006-10-05 16:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were best friends you would stay in touch, no matter what. But you aren't close to him so his termination shouldn't change that. Does he have your personal e-mail? If he e-mails you be kind but distant in your message, like "I'm sorry to hear this didn't work out for you and I wish you the best in life." That way you aren't assessing the situation or placing judgement and you aren't suggesting you will get together with him. But if he doesn't have a way to contact you, let it go. By the way, if he calls you at work to get together, tell him you can't, and then go back to the statement I suggested earlier: "Sorry to hear about this, and I wish you the best. Bye."
2006-10-05 17:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by fried_twinkie1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
net working is what this all about. No one is loyal to a company now come on. You may need him in the future so help him out. there are only 4 of you so go to the bar after work and net work, cheer him on. Greener pasture and all that.
2006-10-05 16:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In business networking is the name of the game now. If you want to stay in contact then do so but not using company resources. It can be taken the wrong way and could get you in trouble.
2006-10-05 17:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by thesherrya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't involve yourself right now. If you would like to keep in touch with him, wait a bit. Let things settle down.
If you were involved in any way with evaluating or rating his performance, you may be putting yourself in an extremely detrimental position by contacting him.
2006-10-06 00:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you don't. Recently, a co-worker of mine got in trouble for speaking to another co-worker who had been laid off. Sad, in particular, because they were neighbors, and simply spoke when they saw each other in the street.
Just to cover your own tush, I'd say don't do it.
2006-10-05 16:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why NOT? It's certainly nice of you to offer your friendship AND support. He may be feeling down and would welcome it.
Besides he may give you some inside scuttlebut as to where HE went wrong perhaps something YOU need to watch out for.
Neither of you are obligated to the company or any one else. If you feel you want to, do it.
2006-10-05 19:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by Hayseedless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any correspondence of his firing should come from his direct superior or higher. Unless he was a really good friend of yours it's not appropriate for you to inform him.
2006-10-05 16:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Hector S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋