she broke up with me 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me
2006-10-05 09:10:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended . .and we broke up for no reason at all . . she said she wanted to date around . . . . but she has been with the same person . . .i guess i just want to know what she wants . . i know what i have to do . . .but i really still love her . . . but i want to know what she wants because im not gonna contact her unless i know for sure what she wants so i dont get hurt again
2006-10-05 09:11:11 · update #1
shutup i didnt even read the freakin ? just shut up!
2006-10-05 09:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by free2singfree2soar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 1/2 years is a very long time and she may love you. I mean because thats more then enough time to know if you love someone or not. But just because your not together dosen't mean you can't be friends. I mean before you guys went out ya'll started a friendship. She might really need someone in her life right now, and you might just be that person. Give her a chance.
2006-10-05 09:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by ghettostar882003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well friend, I went through the exact same thing, I mean exactly. To me, it seems as though she is trying to keep contact just in case another guy doesn't work out, because she knows that you will probably take her back if she asks, not saying you will, but more or less her thinking process. I would just say to her again that you can't and to stop trying to contact you, my ex finally stopped doing the same thing to me, and I am happier now. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-05 09:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, were you her first love? My assumption is she is not ready to be over you. She is using him, as you stated because he is there. She really doesnt know what she wants. I understand that is completely frustrating. In fact, I did that to an ex. He was my first love and although I knew that we wouldnt work out, I didn't want him out of my life. I wanted us to be friends because I missed the best friend that I had. It took quite a while for me to realize things were not going to be the same and if he didnt want a friendship, then it wasnt going to occur.
2006-10-05 09:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Questionqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as a soreness in the butt as this is... i could replace your cellular telephone #... She figures if she keeps calling you that it will avert you from shifting on...She may additionally think of that if she calls you each and every of the time if could scare off different skill females your attempting to get with.. she does not choose you to forget approximately her and because your no longer chatting along with her it is driving her loopy.. i do no longer think of this is a good option to be buddies with an ex..
2016-10-18 21:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your stuff. New phone number, new voice mail without you speaking on it, new log in on the computer. You can't make up your mind til she makes up hers, and she keeps changing hers. Therefore, you will NEVER make up your mind. You are trying to justify waiting in the wings for someone who is going to (not just likley to, IS GOING TO) hurt you again. We make up our minds to love or to ignore. It will take time to convince your heart, but it is do-able. You are being the doormat she needs to come back to, to wipe all the crap off on that she picked up while she was out. Turn her loose. You are better than that.
2006-10-05 09:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by H2Ocolors 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST KEEP IGNORING HER YOU NEVER MISS A GOOD THING TILL IS GONE. HER WELL HAS WENT DRY AND NOW SHE'S TRYING TO GET IN WHERE SHE FITS IN SHE'LL GET THE HINT IF YOUR HAPPY WITH OUT HER THAN JUST BE.
2006-10-05 09:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She still likes you.
2006-10-05 09:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by karren b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stop answering
2006-10-05 09:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋