Could any one tell me how can i become brave to anything?I'm actually a shy guy.When i was talking with people i feel nervous and shy.I really want to make more new friends in college but i scare.I always just so quiet and sit beside them to listen what they said.I don't know what can I chat with them and what I can ask them.I can't think something to chat with them.I'm just imigration to another country to study.And I ain't got no friends.Feel lonely.
2006-10-05 09:02:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Be aloof, you are the strong silent type, listen to wait they say and provide an anecdote (can be total BS, they'll never know) that will make them laugh. Self deprecating humor works good too, just don't go overboard. Always say "Oh yeah, that happened to me too" or "Thats not as bad as this one time when..." Next, you must learn to harness your chi deep inside you, for it will give you strength. You are as strong as you allow yourself to be, you must be fearless. How do you become fearless? Accept the fact that you are going to die someday, and every day you waste in between is a day lost forever. Never be afraid to speak your mind and let others know that you are ALIVE!!
2006-10-05 09:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In high school that was me.. now you can't shut me up. You can talk to people about anything. Watch the news, give you opinion on that, who new CD's just came out, which song you like best. What movies you've seen or would like to see. Talk about home. Talk about classes, how hard/easy the homework was, how you stayed up all night studying for Mr. X's test. There are a lot of things you can chat about. Doesn't have to be something you are an expert at, nothing deep, something simple like the weather can start off a good conversation. Just try to find things that you have in common with other people.. As a guy you can always talk about sports no matter which one... soccer or ping pong. Hope this helps.
2006-10-05 09:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by girl_wonder42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check around for local clubs and societies you can join..maybe join a sports team if you find one you like. You'll start to meet people eventually, just don't be afraid to speak up! We're all just humans.
Just a side note, but to the person that asked this guy if English was his second language; you're an idiot.
2006-10-05 09:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Howe132 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with complete strangers first..with the resolution in your head that if you make a fool of yourself, that person will never recognize you if they saw you again.
Honestly, do you recall every single person you came in contact today? Probably not. Would you be able to pick every person you saw today out of a line-up? Probably not.
As soon as you have in your mind that you are simply 1 of 6 billion people on the planet, it makes it a lot easier to blend in.
2006-10-05 09:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by P. K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely not an easy thing to overcome. You really have to push yourself. If you're having trouble coming up with things to say, make a list of things you can talk about in advance.
2006-10-05 09:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be like you and be shy around people I didn't know. I am in sales and my lively hood depends on being able to talk to people. First of all be yourself, don't try to be like those other people, talk about what interests you. Secondly, not everyone you talk to is gonna like you but some will, you will never know who likes you until you start talking to them. Most of all don't worry about what other people think, if they don't like you...screw them it's their loss.
2006-10-05 09:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Wade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a course in public speaking---no matter how painful this may seem. Think of it as an investment in getting rid of lonliness once and for all.
2006-10-05 09:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is English your second language?
2006-10-05 09:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mercury5_7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking too much about yourself. Get interested in other people and soon you forget that they will kill you if you try to talk to them
2006-10-05 09:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by dongeraldd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be shy. I learned to stop caring
2006-10-05 09:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋