why is it so hard?

Question

i have a bf butt he lives in ohio and i live in vermont and the only time i can talk to him is when im on messenger but i dont have a computer at home so i have to go to the library and the librarian wont let me online, so how is this going to work out, i wont leave him, im his first gf and i really love him, hes the first one i can say that about and mean it, i like him and he likes me,im gonna see him in the summer, what should i do untill then

i can talk to him but my phone is not loud and he dont talk that loud either so i cant understand what he is saying

Answer 1

very sad. wait till his arrival

Answer 2

If it's ok with the both of you, I think you should get out there and date other people. It doesn't have to get serious, but it will keep your minds off of each other until you can hang out again. My true advice to you is that long distance relationships rarely work out. In order for a friendship to develop into a blossoming relationship, you need to spend time around that person. Otherwise, how are you going to learn anything about their true nature? Their bad sides? Their habits? I know this isn't what you want to hear but the fact of the matter is that it's true. Hang in there, consider what I've said and then make the desicion you feel is right. Best of luck to ya!
~D.

Answer 3

Girl i know where your coming from i had a girl friend that lived in utah and i live in wisconsin and the only time we could talk was on the computer, phone or letters but then my step dad took the computer away and then the next week he took the phone and the only way we could talk was through letters and that was it but then i got my phone back and we talked but then not even alomst 5 months of talking and telling each other that were gonna be together she broke up with me i was gonna go be with her when i turned 18 which was in november so if i was you i would think hard on still dating him unless you know for sure your gonna be with him..

Answer 4

I'M GONNA BE HONEST WITH YOU FIRST OF ALL I KNOW IT SEEMS LIKE HE'S THE BEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD BUT YOUR YOUNG AND HE IS YOUR FIRST BUT HE WON'T BE YOUR LAST IN FACT YOUR GONNA FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT MANY MEN STRAIGHT UP. ALSO UNLESS YOU HAVE THE MEANS. MEANING TRANSPORTATION AND THE MONEY AND WILL TO HOP THAT FLIGHT OR TRAIN OR TAKE THAT DRIVE, TO SEE HIM ON THE REGULAR AND HAVE THE COMMUNICATION LINES AVAILABLE. THIS RELATIONSHIP ISN'T GONNA WORK HONEY PLAN AND SIMPLE. I KNOW THAT'S THE LAST THING YOU WANNA HEAR BUT AT YOUR AGE AND HIS OUTTA SIGHT OUTTA MIND. I'M FIGURING THAT YOUR IN HIGH SCHOOL. HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU ARE GONNA CHANGE AS WELL AS YOURS FOR HIM. THERE ARE OTHER GIRLS WHERE HE IS NEW GIRLS WITH DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES AND WHAT NOT AND ALL THESE OTHER DISTRACTIONS THAT CAN AND PROBABLY WILL SPARK HIS INTEREST. THE POINT IS THAT YOU NEED TO MOVE ON THIS RELATIONSHIP AT THIS POINT IN YOUR LIFE ISN'T GONNA WORK, IT'S JUST NOT! YOU HAVE TO MANY OBSTACLES AND THERE'S NOTHING CONCRETE HOLDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER YOU SHOULD MOVE ON. BECAUSE SOONER THAN LATER YOUR MIND IS GONNA START TO CHANGE AS WELL AS YOUR INTEREST AS WELL AS HIS. I HATE TO SOUND ALL PARENTAL BUT THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT IN YOUR HEAD FOR YOU HAND HIM IS AN ADULT RELATIONSHIP AND IS DOESN'T SOUND LIKE YOU ARE ONE JUST YET, I'M SORRY BUT THAT'S THE WAY IT IS THEY CALL THEM GROWING PAINS. FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND START MOVING ON. BECAUSE TRUTHFULLY HE PROBALBY ALREADY HAS THE SUMMER IS A LONG WAY AWAY AND I BET MONEY BY THEN YOU WON'T EVEN FEEL THE SAME WAY.

Answer 5

Have you ever met him, face to face. You dont mention any details.

If this is an internet romance, move on! get over it. You dont even know if this is a real guy or some fat sweaty hairy old fart guy getting his jollies off you!

I promise you will feel the exact same way about the next guy - just make sure he lives in the same area as you. Dating is much more enjoyable that way.

Answer 6

Why is it so hard?

Because you have a "bf butt." That does the trick for a lot of guys.

I am understanding you, right?

(hint: while in the library, try to learn English - they must have some books that don't require the use of crayons, right?)

Answer 7

u won't see him til next summer 2007? if thats correct oh my god thats ages away. but if u really want to be together and make thing work u have to relaise the most important thing in a relationhip is communication, and by the sound of things u won't get much of the cos of the stupid librarian. can't u call him or anything.

Answer 8

OHHH! I was about to ask you why you were complaining? LMFAO!

LOL again...you have a boyfriend butt?

...and how can you "leave" someone you're not even "with?"

Cheer up dear, it's only puppy love, and whatever way that happens, it's bound to hurt. Everybody goes through it. Just do something to occupy your mind and body. Take up a sport or something. Read. There's lots you can do.

Answer 9

chill with him this summer, knowing that this will never be like it was. go in there with your eyes wide open. Have fun talking about the people you know together, make passionate love, then leave with the satisfaction of knowing you have a friend in Ohio

Answer 10

Go buy a calling card and phone him. Why can't you use the computer at the library? I never heard of them banning you. Good luck!

Answer 11

This isn't going to work. You two sound like young teenagers, and this kind of stuff happens all the time. You're not going to end up together, so save yourself the pain, and break it off now.