I've been smoking ciggarettes since i was 13 and ill be 21 soon. My husband of over 2yrs hates when i smoke. I've been trying the patch its not too bad but it makes me dizzy and i get headaches. Do u think my husband is being too controlling on telling me to quit? and are there easier remedies to just stop?
2006-10-05 08:19:56 · 14 answers · asked by Mrs. Armstrong 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
well, my hubby tried cold turkey and it was hard for him...he did cut back to 2 a day for a while and then it was 1 a day...we played a game, I can hide some stuff girl, so I would hide them in the afternoon and if he found them he could have 1, if not then usually, I felt sorry for him and would give him 1. then we found out that I was pregnant and he stopped the 1 a day. it has been 5 years and he still misses it. it is tuff to do and good luck to you. he may not be trying to control you...he may just love you and want you to be around longer.
2006-10-05 08:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will suggest wellbutrin, usually it increases depression instead. I suggest some therapy and hypnosis and get some support from friends and family. If you can, slowly cut back on smoking. Stop smoking in your house or in your car. Try to prolong your first cigarette of the morning. Avoid places where you are likely to smoke more (bars, clubs). Chew gum or suck on hard candies instead of having a smoke. If you husband hates you smoking, maybe he can help you to not smoke when you feel like you have to. A lot of the habit is mental too, so you have to be strong and stay that way.
You have to want to quit and stick with it. You'll get tired of smoking sooner or later, or you'll realize the reason you started is stupid and invalid.
Think of the pluses: you'll save money, smell better, feel better and your health will improve greatly. Good luck from a recient quitter
2006-10-05 08:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is not being controlling he just cares about you and doesnt want you to ruin your life and health because of smoking.. but it should be what YOU want.. you've gotta want to quit.. i have been trying to convince my dad for over 5 years now and it hasn't worked at all..
There are several techniques used to quit smoking.. some people think you should smoke one last cigarette and promise yourself not to smoke another in your life again.. this takes ALOT of will power and self-control.. Others choose to cut down on them gradually.. try smoking one less cigarette every day until you get to zero.. everyone is different and has their own personal ways..
But you should really quit as soon as possible.. im sure you know bu heart the effects of tobacco so im not going to go on that.. just remember that your husband is doing this becaause he loves you, he cares, and he is 100% right on this one..
I wish you the best of luck and hope you (and the rest of the world) cut this horrible, awful, disgusting habbit..
From a person who's vowed never to touch a cigarette in her life,
hugs, Stella :)
2006-10-05 08:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by hedZy ♀ The Dancing Banana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be being a bit controling. After all, he did marry you, and that's for better or for worse. Lots of people don't like to see others smoke, and there are plenty of good reasons behind it. I'm sure you know why. Here are some tips though:
If you are going to quit, you can't quit for someone, you have to quit for yourself. If you truly believe you need to kick this habit, you are going to have to come to terms with it on your own. You hubby might be and influence, but untimately, it's up to you. Instead of him being mean about it, he should be supportive if you do decide to quit.
Ask your doctor about some of the over the counter remedies. It's just a matter of finding which one fits you. If none of those seem to work, you might try a social group therapy for this. Believe it or not, they do exist.
Most smokers have a veriety of reasons they like smoking. Some like the taste, some like how it keeps thier hands busy, and some are just addicted to the nicotine, or it could be a variety of these factors. You have to figure out which one is "controling you" the most. That's the first step. You have to understand why you like smoking. Once you have figured that out, it may be a bit easier to work with from there.
For those who are addicted to the " busy hands" or " busy mouth" habbit, try chewing on straws. Beleive it or not, if that's one of the bad factors, gum and straws can work wonders.
For those who like the taste, gum or nicotine gum is best. It keeps your mouth busy and helps you avoid the taste by replacing it with another.
For those with the nicotine addiction, there are many types of meds that may help you, like the patch or losenges, ect.
Rencently, I have heard that some doctors have been working with anti-depressants to help smokers. Both ciggaettes and anti-depressants have been linked to having the same chemical effects on the brain. By this I mean they are effecting the amount of dopamine and seratonin your body naturally produces in the brain. You can ask your doctor about this.
The last one I have heard of has been hypnosis. I have had several friends who have had this work for them. You might ask around you local area.
Well, I hope this helped you. I am a former smoker myself. Yea, the cravings always seem to come around, especially after dinner or in a social setting where others do as well. The best thing I have found for this has been to keep myself busy after meals and avoid situations which may tempt me. If you need support or just someone to talk to, feel free to IM or e-mail me. I ahve both posted on my answers profile. Good luck hun!!!
2006-10-05 08:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not too controlling since he knows it's killing you.
My father smoked. He just came out of the hospital after they cut out his vocal chords and trachea from cancer. He can no longer swallow and need a feeding tube. Think about that image next time you want to light up.
2006-10-05 08:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smoked for 27 years. I used Juicy Fruit chewing gum and Tootsie Pops to quit cold turkey. when you've had it with tobacco you'll quit
2006-10-05 08:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by kapute2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband is just concerned for your health.
The way I quit was to put it off. I wanted a cigarette... but... not right now. I'll have one later. It cut me back to the point that I was able to quit.
You won't be able to until YOU are ready to, tho, whatever crap your husband gives you.
2006-10-05 08:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bitsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
smoking is bad for u and when ur husband tells u to stop it means he loves u - bot being controlling.. i think u should really watch your health u r too young to die soon
2006-10-05 08:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try Commit! That is of course if you want to quit.........I smoke but my husband does not.........I do not smoke in public enclosed places with him, I don't allow smoking in my house and I try to be respectful of him not liking it!
2006-10-05 08:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by crownvic64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain! Ive been smoking for 29 years and I'm 37! I'm thinking about hypnosis. and maybe add a prescription for extra measure. good luck!
2006-10-05 08:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by c.a.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋