why does the nice guy vibe turn women off ?

Question

Ok I think IM cursed. I like to get o know women and about them before I would think about sleeping with them. I gess learning too much about them is a bad thing because next thing I know Im just nice and sweet. I think I know the answer to this question, but why is the nice guy vibe such a turn-off to girls.. all answers accepted

Scotty Gecko YOU GOT A POINT, BUT I KNOW A LOT OF MY FRIENDS WHO ARE VERY BIG AND STILL GET LAID BY TENS OTHER THAN THAT YOU MIGHT BE GETTING THE BEST ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION SO FAR

Answer 1

Keep entering the "friend zone", huh?

First, I'm not judging, but if you are physically unattractive, you need to lower your standards (I have a "rotund" friend who refuses to consider less than hot women...no wonder he's a 27 year old virgin)

Second, if you are dealing with young high school/early college age girls, its tough. They tend to be fickle and a bit shallow, so the nice guy thing by itself wont work

Third, be sure you aren't whiny, pessimistic, or self defeating, especially in the presence of women. For some yet unexplained reason, women can smell confidence on a man, and they are all attracted to that. Lack therof, or worse, as another friend of mine does, constantly pointing out your own inadequacies is a MAJOR turn-off to women (and vice versa).

Fourth, from the beginning of your encounter/relationship with a woman, you need to gently, subtlely, maybe subliminally put it out there that you are interested in sex with her (this is a tightrope, be careful, come on too strong and you'll look like a jerk). Or, at least, don't do anything to make her think that that's off the table and friendship is all you want, lest friendship be all you get.

Finally, be yourself. Don't be awkward, and don't do cheesy **** like feed her dumb one liners, or ask her about star wars.

Hope this helps

Answer 2

Immature girls cannot tell the difference between cocky stupidity and confidence, hence you get a bunch of girls who want a confident guy yet they pick assholes because they can't tell the difference.

There is a huge difference between being a nice guy and being a pushover. Be nice but don't let her get away with anything and don't kiss her ***!!! Remember to have fun and don't hesitate from teasing her or having a sense of humor. Often times guys are so nice they fail to have a personality. Plus, if a girl doesn't have respect for you or have the impression that you are going to stand up for yourself or her, you are done.

Be confident and nice and certainly know what you want from a girl and a relationship. Girls can't stand guys who are on the fence about everything and never "sack up" and make a decision. Do not turn into a prick. Be nice and confident. The good girls will respond, the immature ones will end up exactly where they should be, alone and miserable. Remember, your only looking for one.

Answer 3

Well, you know what they say, nice guys often do finish last. I know that this makes no sense, but as a woman, I can tell you that most of the time women do not want some goody-two shoes who grovels at their feet. They end up wanting some bad boy that treats them like crap at least some of the time. I think the reason for this is because nice guys are predictable, & well...too...nice & corny. A lot of females like that rough & tough attitude. But I suggest just being yourself. Whatever feels right to you to get the girl you want! Good luck!

Answer 4

You aren't cursed, you're just dating the wrong girls. I love nice guys, but it does get a little annoying when they never kiss you or try anything remotely physical. A lot of girls know the stereotype that all guys are sex fiends, and even though it's obviously not true, sometimes we wonder if there's something about us that makes you guys not want to kiss us.

Answer 5

yeah I agree with the chick ahead of me who said you are dating the wrong girls. Then again you dont want to come across as a doormat either. Be nice but keep her on the edge too. George Costanza said it best "nobody wants to be with somebody who loves them" lol. Funny. but honestly women like a little edge, a little hard *** Attitude they think they can change. People are nuts, thank God I’m engaged and don’t have to play these games anymore, I feel for you.

Answer 6

Because it lacks mystery. Regardless of what women say, they like there to be a little mystery in relationships--especially at the beginning.

Here's what you need to do--watch the film the Tao of Steve. It's your primer. The three rules: (1) Be desireless around women. If you look like you want to get lid, you want. (2) Be excellent in their presence. Always be funny/do something impressive. (3) Be gone. Retreat following your excellence. Women chase what they can't have.

Good luck!

Answer 7

ITS NOT A BAD THING, TO BE THE NICE GUY JUST DON'T GIVE INTO SOME OF THE THINGS GIRLS WILL ASK, 1) borrowing money. 2) borrowing car 3) parties at your house. ECT... HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND YOU WILL BE TAKEN BUT DON'T WORRY THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU SOME WERE. GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

A nice guy only turns off immature women. You, my friend, need to start dating nice girls!

Answer 9

Nice Guy = Boring.

Women are shallow and egotistical.

They dont have time for boring, but they have plenty of time for egotistical jerk, because they are stimulated.

That ends later in life after several abortions, births and they figure out it doesnt pay.

Answer 10

I don't know what girls you've been around, but I like nice guys. Especially funny, nice guys.