What am I obligated to say during a wedding toast as the bestman?

Answer 1

thank the parents, the people that showed up, a joke, and something usually a story or memory about the bride and groom.

Answer 2

We ended up eloping so this wasn't an issue but originally the wedding I planned was $3 per person extra for a toast whether it was champagne or apple juice. I thought that was insane. I see nothing wrong with people toasting with the drink they already have. I'm allergic to champagne & as a guest I wouldn't drink it anyway. I find very few people I know that even like it. I have good taste, I'm not a chick without class, but it's a waste of money to me. More than one sip is enough for most people. They simply don't have a palette for it & it goes all to waste as nobody really wants to swig down their glass. It's a sipping thing & it's put off to the side. Don't waste your money on it, seriously.

Answer 3

I worked in a top Long Island caterer for 4 years and have seen hundreds of Best Man toats. BE SHORT. DONT tell any embarassing stories... actually stay away from stories all together. You'll leave out the important details and no one will remember the story anyway.

u should make sure to include this:

1. say the bride looks wonderful
2.thank everyone for coming and thank everyone who made this day possible. DONT thank specific people because u will leave someone important out and they will get offended.
3. say something like Here's to a wonderful couple, a wonderful party and a wonderful new life.
END over done. dont go on after youve said that... everyone is standing up, starving and waiting for you to shut up so they can dance. plus the less u say, less chance to mess up and the more parting can be done!

oh and every little joke u think is funny probably isnt that funny. ie. "groom, put ur hand on hers.. this is the last time you'll have the upper hand" or getting a bunch of women to come up with boxershorts that he "left" at their place or their keys to his place and then a guy at the end of it, yea right.. hahah so funny... not.. its BEEN done a millllion times... im sure someone there has already seen it and ur taking up VALUEABLE time...

Answer 4

Keep 3 points in mind -

1. Keep it REAL (this means heartfelt and honest, dont just say anything)

2. Keep it under 3 minutes (yes there is a matter of attention spans and others who wish to toast as well.

3. Keep your cool (You know you're going to be nervous. Dont try to write out a speech so you can read it, that will only make you more nervous.... but it is totally acceptable to think of 5 topics (and write the topics only on a recipe card or something to put at your place setting) and briefly touch on each of them.

Good Luck and have fun with it. If you have fun so will everyone else.

Answer 5

You are not obligated to say anything.

I would start by thanking everyone in attendance, and the parents of the bride & groom.

I was a best man for my friend's wedding, and had to give my speech in front of 500+ people.

I would suggest not writing the speech out, just think of some main points you want to get across and try to touch on all of them.

Being honest is important.

Answer 6

You're not obligated to say anything specific. If you're happy for the couple say what's in your heart. I presume you must know the groom pretty well to be best man so tell him what you think about him and wish him happiness.
If you're not happy for the couple, have someone else write the toast for you so you don't destroy any friendships!

Have as great day!!!

Answer 7

Tell a joke or two, but keep things nice. You're only obligated to say that you wish them luck, but most best men tell about the first time they met the friend, funny memories between the two, etc. But whatever you do, DON'T make it boring!

Answer 8

You are only obligated to wish them happiness basically. Let them know that you wish them well and you could throw in how you know them and what makes you so close to the groom or even the bride too. Things like that, just something nice that they will appreciate.

Answer 9

Whatever you want to. My husband hid a toaster under his chair, and it when it came time for his toast, he pulled out the toaster, put bread in it, and said how happy he was for the couple until the toast was done. Then he sat down and ate it. It got one helluva good laugh.

Answer 10

Anything you want! It's usually a good idea to mention on what a good choice the groom made in a bride, but if you don't approve of his choice, it's something I don't think you'd want to bring up in the toast, unless your into ruining a wedding!! :-)