Me and my bf have a great sex life but lately ive been trying to tell him to bethe leader. He is very shy but around me he isnt that shy. I want him to be more manly during sex, i want him to take control and not wait for me to do something first. Is there a way i can really drive him to extremes to make him want to just rip my clothes off? How can I get him to be more controlling during sex?
2006-10-05 08:12:50 · 20 answers · asked by nikkilanger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a few pornos that have a really dominating guy in it ... and watch it together ... give him some ideas ... and go from there ... ask him to be more aggressive during sex and really let loose ... tell him how much it turns you on when he takes control ... give him a few toys ... like a whip or something to test out ... ask him for spankings ... get him really drunk ... just a few to think about ... !
2006-10-05 08:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my suggestion is that you do one of 2 things. When your laying down or cuddling with your man, tese him girl! Kiss his ear or his neck, put your leg up on his, you know what I mean. And if you do this most guys will respond, but if your man still doesn't jump in the driver's seat, just talk to him about it. Let him know that you would like him to be a bit more aggressive when it comes to your sex life. As long as you don't come across like you are totally unsatisfied with your intimacy, he should be cool with it! Good luck!
2006-10-05 15:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lead from behind, kind of. Get comfortable with leading from behind. Guys want to please their woman, but if the guy is really a nice guy he is going to be careful with you and himself.
He probably is having trouble with controlling himself. He is just not ready to start try to control you. You have to be patient. Making love is a learned activity, and the first task is learning to control one impulses particularly for a guy.
Making love is a lot like making a friendship. Don't let ideas of perfection get in the way of enjoying the simple aspects of life, the out and the in, and deep and shallow, and simple reality. No one is born a great lover. We can all imagine, but you have to learn how to enjoy loving. So learn yourself and let him learn!
2006-10-05 15:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be very straight forward about exactly what you want. Tell him how you want him to act and what you need him to say. You are the only person that knows what that is. Find out what drives him crazy and try to tease him as much as possible. Good luck!!
2006-10-05 15:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by copswife93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what you would like to do. Also, how the heck old are you. Someone else asked this question and they ended being 15 years old. She shouldn't have been having sex in the first place.
2006-10-05 15:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a fantasy with him...before you are in the bedroom. Just talk out what you would like to hapen...as a "what if we did this" type senario...No pressure, just express it as something that gets you hot thinking about and would he help you with it? Then ask him for a fantasy...who knows maybe the reason he is hesitant to take charge is his fantasy is the same!
2006-10-05 15:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by arosehasthornns 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some easy bondage might work. Invite him to tie you up...loosely, of course, perhaps using his ties. Nothing really rough, really. Make him be the one in control.
2006-10-05 15:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want an answer to it too, my bf is very shy too, and I have told him time and again that I want him sometimes to be more of a MAN. when he kisses, he kisses with paintbrush, when he undresses me he does it like a magician's helper, I want him to be a violent one, sometimes.
2006-10-05 15:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making me hot just thinking of an answer for you.
2006-10-05 15:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. I tell my man to pull my hair, and then say is that all he gots, Or to spank you, and say that wasnt hard enough that he could do better. He will likely take over.
2006-10-05 15:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋