Can you ever forgive each other and move on?

Question

If you have both cheated on each other even if it was just a kiss can things ever be the same again? I have been with my boyfriend for seven years we live together and are engaged but recently found out he kissed another girl and I have done the same to him with another guy.

Well it all happened pretty recently. Haven't been totally truthful my turned into a total text affair.

Answer 1

Once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 2

i wish it was this easy ... i mean if relationships were basically based on understanding each other , forgiving and being supportive no matter what , you wouldn't find this large number of break-ups and fights every single day ! and the weired thing is the way the story starts and the way it ends ... if u watch the couple in the beginning of the relation you would definitely call them " the contemporary romeo and juliette " and if u watch them later on while having this enormous fight you would just wonder how did those people fall in love in the first place ? i'm sorry , back to your question , is your boyfriend the one ? you mentionned that you've been living together for seven years which means A LOT in such a world ! but if those seven years meant something to both of you , how would u just simplify this pure " kiss " and the weired thing is that BOTH of u did it with someone else , so what was it about ? a small crush , a breaking of the routine , or what ? if you BOTH think that you can simply forget this epoch , remove it from your life and start over without mentionning this period EVER ! and i mean it ever , than that's it , you still have a chance together ... if not , then , move on , you don't know what's meant to be in the following day ! good luck

Answer 3

That depends. You both are wrong for what you both did because neither of you were faithful in the relationship. But you've together for 7 years and that must mean you've been through a lot of things 2gether. And I'm pretty sure there have been worse things in the realationship than what you're talking about or worrying about now. I think you should talk to him because usually he feels it's something you're not doing to make him do what he did and vise versa. Be open with him. And yes, in time, you can restore your realationship to its natural status and maybe even higher than it was before! So don't listen to what those other people have told you. Just have confience in your relationship and everything will work out fine! And sorry for the advice being so long. Just had a lot to say. Holla!!

Answer 4

It's difficult to trust people at the best of times, but what has happened now makes it impossible as you both know that you cannot totally trust each other. That would pretty much end it for some couples because they would say that these things should not happen if you truly love someone. You both need to talk about it, but let's be honest: this will always be at the back of your minds. It's a shame.

Answer 5

If it was just a kiss, then get over it. If it was more, then you better check both your feelings. Why get married? So you can have kids, and screw up more lives than just your own? When did all this drama happen? A long time ago, or recently? Maybe you both should see a counselor and find out why you both are doing this to each other.

Answer 6

that is a tough situation, i normal would say no & not because 'once a cheater always a cheater' because that is NOT true, but once you cheat in 1 relationship the guilt usually never goes away but this is a little different because you both did it & it was ONLY a kiss right?.. well aslong as you dont continiously fight or question eachother & you have gained trust back then yes, you can be together - but if you still dont have trust in eachother than you may never be able to really forgive & move on

Answer 7

YES U CAN but should u do so the u cant ever bring it up again -- thats what that means. its not going 2 disappear over night or the next month so u have 2 b very strong and patient. if u think hes worth it and hes committed 2 doing the same than go 4 broke

Answer 8

Trust is broken between you two. But it would take a lot of work on both your parts to work it out. The first thing would be to find out what internal issues you both have that would cause such a thing. Its easy to get complacent in a long term relationship, but if you both can show one another you are committed to one another it can work out. Everyone makes mistakes, its how you learn from it that matters. It can either go one of two ways. A stronger relationship or you both move on.

Answer 9

Many will say no, and that is ok for them, but you have to take a really good look at yourself and decide who you are in this situation at this time in your life. Maybe the answer is also not so stark. Maybe you try your relationship out again conditionally. Unconditional love in marriage or loving partnerships often colapse because it is hard not to change and you just keep having to find a way to stay tegether. Every marriage is that way or even friendship. It takes two to tango!! Good Luck.

Answer 10

Well Sugar, you're both guilty of doing the same thing. You've been together quite a while. Try to figure out why both of you did this, forgive each other, and move on. Things won't be the same. Things will be better, especially if you agree to be faithful from now on.

Answer 11

Things will never be the way they were. If you both did the cheating, then you both need to be away from each other. Whats the point of hanging out? neither one of you are trustwothy. If you really care you don't play those games and here are the both of you being very disrespectful to each other.