I'm a 22-year-old male, and I've been absolutely in love with this girl for about two years. She's 16 years old, and she's one of many children. I'm good friends with everyone in her family, including the parents. Her parents have people over all the time.
About 4 months after I started liking her I talked to the parents (got the mom on the phone) about this crush I had on her, for I frequently hung out with the family (and I had been going over there for like 2 years, nearly every Sunday after church at least). I was commanded not to tell her how I felt about her until she turned eighteen. I respected.
Now, two years later, I still have not spoken a word to her about how I feel about her; although I feel like she still definitely knows, and I feel quite certain I can tell she loves me back. (Besides, her mom told me when I called that day.)
I intend to wait. She is worth it to me. I'm dying to tell her how I feel. My question is, it it at all reasonable to wait with no comm.?
2006-10-05 07:59:40 · 18 answers · asked by unraveledlogic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, my dad was 22 when he met my mom, who was 16. They fell in love, and got married 2 years later. It was a different time back then in the early 80's but guess what? They had me (their first kid, 1983) and had 3 more kids after that. They've have a good marriage, and now own a business together. And they have now been together for over 24 years, which is rare these days!
My point is, love doesn't know what age is. As long as you are willing to wait until she is ready and mature enough to have a relationship, then I think it's ok to let her know how you feel.
2006-10-05 08:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd make sure that her heart is in the same place. You never know if when she turns 18 if she'll stay around or if she has other motives for her life. A lot changes when a girl gains that "independance" at 18 and then it's a whole different story when she turns 21.
I met a guy when I was 16 and he was 20. We got married when I was 20 and he was 24, It was a disaster. I'd wait and stay her friend until she's done with college. Let her experiance unattached life!
2006-10-05 08:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by andy l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that movie "The Notebook" where the guy runs into the love of his life after fighting in a war for a few years. But when they meet again she is engaged to someone else.
I would say wait and meet other women in the meantime. Once you get married you are stuck so you might as well enjoy life now. As for the girl let her grow up first. Send her letters and let her parents read it if they are paranoid.
I think you are an honest guy so dont get apalled by the paranoia running rampant in yahoo answers
2006-10-05 08:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure is
If you feel the same way after this amount of time, then it looks like the real thing from your end
She needs to experience a few things before it is fair for you to ask her to commit to a lifetime relationship.
If you rush her, she will always wonder what she missed and may turn very bitter about the whole relationship.
2006-10-05 08:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Irish Wander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her that much, sounds like you are in love with her. Sounds like it would be worth the wait, especially if she feels the same way about you. Now if she doesnt feel that way about you, then it might not be worth the wait. Things might not pan out the way you want and it could cause more pain in the end. I would suggest talking to her parents again. Assure them that you truly care for her, and you arent out to run off and screw her like most men want to with women that young. Then see what they say. If they ask you not to say anything to her, and you really do love her, then you will respect that and wait two more years. Good luck.
2006-10-05 08:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 19 and my bf is 25 the detailed identical age hole as yours. I do not see whatever unsuitable with it. It may not subject in a couple of years. It's simply your nonetheless in prime university that perhaps bizarre for different men and women. Don't fear approximately it:)
2016-08-29 07:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by liebermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You totally goofed up this question. She must be 18 NOW, and people think she is still 16. So, people think it's wrong, and all.
I believe you mean to say that she's 18 now, and you liked her when she was 16. Go for it, and try if she is 18 as I believe as what you are saying.
2006-10-05 08:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's under the age of consent, She has no idea what she wants or feels (at least in the eyes of the law). You were 20 diggin on a 14 year old. Just because she's getting older doesn't make you less of a perv. Go directly to jail, do not pass Go.
2006-10-05 08:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are already an adult and she's still a teenager. Wait a couple of years until this can be a relationship between two adults.
2006-10-05 08:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a good example of what 2 do. u show respectfulness, caring, thoughtfulness and the true understanding of love which is a godly attribute
2006-10-05 08:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by dipper9stikk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋