So I've been in an on/off relationship with a man who is 10 years older then me for about 4 years now. I'm 22, he's 32. We both have expressed our love for the other and we have a very strong chemistry and connection to the other. We've technically never been in an exclusive relationship, but we are great together. My problem is that we're "on" again, and he's been dealing with a lot of stress in his life (work & family drama mostly) and his sex drive is totally shot. I've been trying to help him with everything going on, and meanwhile, I'm starting to go crazy with this feeling of "frustration." I've made moves to initiate sex but he always is too distracted to do anything. We're going on 4 months without sex. I love this man, and everything is pointing that we're meant to be with each other. But how can I help him more to start getting that physical part of our relationship back. Or should I just wait it out until the dry spell is over.
2006-10-05 07:49:14 · 10 answers · asked by andy l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you wait a bit and suppoert him through this time and then if no change occurs you mention your needs are not being met in the most no confrontation manner. And Pray he can rise to the occassion
2006-10-05 07:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man 25 years older than me. We have had dry spells. One or two of the long ones lasting six months. A dry spell is very normal Just because he is a man does mean that he will want sex all the time. There is much more to your relationship than sex, or you would have left already. Wait a little longer, and tell him how you feel in the most direct confrontational manner. A man does not hang around one and only one women for four years if there is nothing to hang around for. Help him as best you can. If you think it might be a pysical problem, discuss that with him as well. Remember, you love this man. You are in an adult relationship. Relationships change with time and age. Also, there are other ways to take your frustrations out. Don't be afraid to expore.
2006-10-05 15:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see what the problem is. You aren't even exclusively dating. It's only occasional dating. It sounds like you want just to have sex, and not a real relationship. Otherwise, it wouldn't be bothering this much.
2006-10-05 14:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMM is he cheating? That sounds like he's cheating. If a man refuses sex that is usually the cause. Maybe all your pampering is enough and he doesn't want to tell you to hit the pike cuz of your moral support. I would do some investigating on this and see what you find. good luck!
2006-10-05 14:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like hes going through a lot right now and i know you have your needs but sometimes a man as odd as it sounds just dosent want sex you need to show him that you support him and love him and when hes ready he will not let you down
2006-10-05 14:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by ACE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't wait and be supportive then you don't love this man like you seem to think you do. If you loved him you wouldn't be here complaining.
2006-10-05 14:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. You don't need his baggage.
2006-10-05 14:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has a std or something!
2006-10-05 14:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enzyte, baby! Ha ha........
2006-10-05 14:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by bajinnoly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** him off!!!!
2006-10-05 14:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by gusgus is in the house!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋