this guy ive known a little while now has a steady g/f and im really good mates with both of them. but he told me he doesnt love her and sometimes doesnt even like her and also confessed he has strong feelings 4me. ive told him i like him too but that nothing more can happen till hes spoken 2his g/f. things went a bit far with me and him the other night....un intended! but im still only 16 and a virgin, hes 17 and not. i feel hes pressuring me into losing it with him and he doesnt seem bothered about the fact that hes not single and im good mates with his other half! what can i do 2get him 2back off please?????????
2006-10-05 07:47:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's totally trying to have his cake and eat it too. Just tell him you don't want to see him again until he straighten things out with his girlfriend. I'm sure the only reason you haven't done this already is because you like him (maybe a lot) and don't want him to disappear from your life. But look at this way, if you keep hanging out with him things are going to continue to become more and more heated sexually and otherwise. And you're going have to live with the fact that you are helping him be unfaithful to a friend of yours. You wouldn't like it if the tables were turned and you would expect your friend to put her foot her down, so you should hold yourself to same standard. If this guy really likes you then he will break up with his girlfriend and be with you. If he doesn't do this then he has no respect for you, his girlfriend, or their relationship and do you really want to be involved with someone who has to little regard for your and your friend's feelings? What's gonna happen if he meets some other girl that fancies him? He'll just start up with her and leave both you and your friend in the lurch. Stand up for yourself! You deserve better than this kind of treatment and so does his girl.
2006-10-05 08:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by NutterButter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, step away from the bomb! He's lying to you. If he has feelings for you and not her, then why is he still with her? He's using you. Turn everything around. How would you feel if you were her? He's a lying SOB, and just tell him to go away. You don't need this kind of aggravation. You're only 16 once. Why get into something so complicated? That's what adulthood is for.
The best advice (according to my son) that I ever gave, was relationships shouldn't have to be hard or full of drama.
2006-10-05 07:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him NO and mean it!!! i'm 17 as well and i have made some decisions that now i wish i hadnt have. dont let him get to you like that and if need be cut him off(stop talking to him) keep ur virginity for as long as possible, preferbly until u r married, always think over and over about any situation before you make any decisions and know that there is someone for you so dont be tricked, trust me im talking from experience. Good luck!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-05 07:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by ke ke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it has develop right into a lot less complicated, both that or i'm in simple terms getting extra used to or extra perfect at coping with what's thrown at me, i don't sense like I truly have any a lot less topics as i'm getting older!!
2016-12-04 07:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by harbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he sounds like a loser. If he's willing to cheat on his current girlfriend, you can be pretty sure that he would cheat on you too. You DEFINITELY don't want to lose it to a guy like that, if he really cared about you he wouldn't pressure you AND he would have the decency to at least break up with his girlfriend to persue something more serious with you.
2006-10-05 07:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by ccsammi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself which is more important, u giving your virginity 2 the 1 u choose or him. youve already made up your mind so now its time 2 grow n character youngin. trust me youll glad u did when looking back on it. oh yea LOOSE THE BUMB AS A FRIEND OR YOULL PAY.
2006-10-05 07:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by dipper9stikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his girl (even though that may be hard to do) if you can't cough up the courage to do that stay away from him for a little while until he gets his act together.
2006-10-05 07:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by nichelle b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him!! He's bad bad bad news. Go on your merely way and find someone that is much much much better then him. Good luck!
2006-10-05 07:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna be hard, but leave it alone.
Do what you truely believe is right. Anything else and you'll regret your decision.
2006-10-05 08:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by MotherFirefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like it too,he trying to have both of you,well tell him to get lost and that you used to like him as a friend.
2006-10-05 07:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋